Over lunch, my daughter and I had a conversation.
"Mommy, I love you the best."
"I love you too, sweetie."
"I love you more than Daddy."
"Why? Your daddy loves you bunches."
"He gets cranky at me."
"That's true. Sometimes he does."
"So I love you the best."
I just kind of let it drop, but have your kids ever said anything like that? I'm sure it would hurt her dad's feelings if he heard it--or maybe not, since he's raised kids before, if it's normal for them to say stuff like this. I was kind of taken aback.
However, personally, I would talk with dad and say, you might want to make sure you are not being overly cranky. You might want to tell him this story. When I was going through the nightmare of my divorce, and under a great deal of stress, I found a note in my son's room that said he wanted to run away because I yelled at him so much. It broke my heart, and made me examine my behavior. I was yelling too much. I apologized to my son. From then on, before I opened my mouth to scold my son, I found a better, calmer way to get my displeasure across. I still have that note, and I read it sometimes. It still breaks my heart. Ask him if he would like to find a note like that.
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Before my kid's dad lost his mind and abandoned them, both of them let me know that they loved their daddy more than me. That was because I was the disciplinarian, and he never would do any kind of discipline. Funny, but the slut who worked so hard to steal my husband even called me to complain about this to me, asking how to deal with it, lol, too funny.I told her she wanted him so bad so she could figure it out. My 25 year old recently told me that looking back, she now appreciates that I gave her boundaries, and consequences for poor behavior. So, all this is to say, when kids are young, they don't understand that as parents, sometimes we need to scold, and give consequences for poor choices. (cont.)
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