A lil over a year ago I met 2 young sisters who each have a child. I became very connected to them and accepted them into my family as my daughters. They, along with their brother and older sister, where raised by their grandmother who died 4 years ago. After becoming connected and attached to them, we began to do normal things as a family: spending holidays together, birthdays, and so forth. Not long from that tragedy struck the young ladies lives. From loosing jobs to having to move in with their grandfather after they couldn't pay their rent. The worse tragedy is when their grandfather's house burned and the grandfather died in the house. They practically lost everything including their grandfather. They were the ones caring for their grandfather and doing what they could for his well-being. Their aunties, uncles, other family members, and father all live in other areas, most out of Texas. After the funeral, things with the young ladies family got out of control. The grandfather had death and life insurance, and he also had home insurance, and the family started fighting over the money. All the young ladies wanted was to replaced what they and their children had lost in the fire. They had to live in a hotel. After the siblings started fighting over the money, there was a hold put on it. The young ladies and their children had nothing. I became very connected, because they were really devastated over all their losses. They ended up in their own apartments only for things to get worse. One sister had her apartment broken into, and her car was stolen. On top of that, her job cut her hours. She moved in with me for about a month, and I became very open and available for her. She was very unhappy, so she moved back to California. It took some time for me to get use to her leaving, but I did. The other one loves Texas, but also faced hard storms: from losing her child for 30 days to CPS because of her depression to losing relationships and her job. Many times she wanted to leave, but was not like her younger sister. She toughed it out up until today when she finally moved back to California. She felt moving was just for a year so she can get a job, then she will come back. This one I really attached to a lil more than the other one. My heart was ripped and broken when she left. It has been very hard to accept her leaving, but I know she has to do what's best for her and her child. I told her I had to protect my heart because too many times it had been ripped out. I know it wasn't her intentions, but still it hurt like crazy. She promised she would come back, because she did not want to raise her child in California. I know she loves us, but felt this was best. I told her running from her problems will keep you running. But she felt she needed to leave for a year. In my spirit I felt if she leave she will not return, because according to her the cost of living is much better, although its higher. But bad things happen when she lived there, which is there reason why she moved to Texas. But she continues to promise she will be back. I decided to protect my heart because I feel its easier to say my farewells than to expect her back next year. She didn't want me to be sad, and I tried even the kids not to, but it was too hard. Was I in too deep with my new extended family lives?
Asked by Anonymous at 5:13 PM on Aug. 14, 2013 in Adult Children (18+)
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