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Tattle tales

Do you teach your children to work things out if they can or do you teach them to be whining little tattle tales?

Do you as an adult run and tattle when someone hurts your feelings at work or somewhere?

I wonder if kids at school get expelled if too many kids tattle on them? What about work, do you get fired if people complain a lot?

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luvmygrandgirl

Asked by luvmygrandgirl at 6:37 PM on Aug. 15, 2013 in Relationships

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  • On yeah- sure I do that
    I run around telling the whole effing world when someone steps on my toes.
    Because I am small and petty like that
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 6:39 PM on Aug. 15, 2013

  • I try to work out my own issues, I work with a girl who will throw me under the bus at any given time.
    My kids know the difference between a problem, and a real issue.
    Huge difference between a kid being victimized and not getting what they "want" out of the deal.
    2kids2dogs2cats

    Answer by 2kids2dogs2cats at 6:40 PM on Aug. 15, 2013

  • I've tried to teach my children the difference between a tattle & a tell. A tattle is something that should be worked out on their own. A tell is more serious & should involve a grown-up. I don't think kids get suspended for tattling, maybe a detention if it's excessive.
    As to the grown-up world, I'm sure if an employee has enough complaints, it would be bad for business to keep them, so they'd probably be fired.
    mrsmom110

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 6:41 PM on Aug. 15, 2013

  • Yeah, my son knows the difference between being a little punk about something and telling when it is serious. I think a lot of adults have a problem distinguishing between the two.
    kmath

    Answer by kmath at 6:43 PM on Aug. 15, 2013

  • I teach my children to speak up if bullied but, not to tattle tale. I want my children to be able to confidently handle their own problems when they are adults.
    3libras

    Answer by 3libras at 6:46 PM on Aug. 15, 2013

  • I teach my daughter to tell someone (especially me) if someone is bullying her or someone else. I tell her not to tell on kids just to be a jerk or if it's about stupidity (I teach her the difference between bullying and just stupidity). As far as myself, I'm not able to work so I don't tattle, but when I was able to work I handled things face to face.
    Nos4

    Answer by Nos4 at 7:17 PM on Aug. 15, 2013

  • Not tattling was a big deal at my home. The rule was that there needed to be blood flowing lol. I'm not sure that was the wisest parenting choice I made but it worked.
    Mrs_Prissy

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 7:22 PM on Aug. 15, 2013

  • work things out...
    smiley745

    Answer by smiley745 at 7:33 PM on Aug. 15, 2013

  • There's a giant banner at DS’s school:
    You are responsible for your own actions

    Sadly a lesson too few people learn
    NotPanicking

    Answer by NotPanicking at 7:39 PM on Aug. 15, 2013

  • Someone on this site, I can't remember her name but I haven't noticed her posting lately, said she taught preschool, and when kids would tattle, the teachers would say, "There isn't blood? There isn't a fire? There isn't a stranger? Then work it out." I started using the same line with my daughter, and now if I start it, she'll finish it with me.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 7:58 PM on Aug. 15, 2013

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