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Everyone has one, or some, they have to deal with in life, and the answer of "just ignore them" is a bit condescending since adults aren't typically living in a pre-school environment where that does any good.
How do you deal with the person who insists they are being singled out or "mean girled" by someone, yet insists on following that person around and constantly engaging them (then expects sympathy when they aren't welcomed with open arms)?
Or the one who is so desperate to participate, more time is spent thinking about their contribution to the conversation than what others are saying, to the point they'll often repeat someone else's point?
There's the fake ditz, who lurks around listening to everything, intentionally looking for little bombs to drop, only to then insist that they had no idea about whatever drama they were intentionally looking to start, and either play the victim for having it pointed out, or deflect and insist anyone who was aware is somehow at fault because knowing about it must require extensive work.
There's also the eternal sob story. Whatever they've been through in life is always worse than anyone else, and also an excuse for any wrong doing. The rules of society don't apply to them, because they always have a trump card.
So when you're an adult and can't simply tell these people they can't be in your yard, how do you deal with them? It's the annoying PTO mother who attaches herself to you at every meeting. The one woman at the gym who thinks it's HER gym, and you're there at her discretion. That co-worker who spends more time obsessed with these things than doing their actual job, but can't understand why you don't appreciate having the privilege of picking up her slack. The play group mom who wants more attention than the kids. (and let's face it, it's not always women - there are men who can be just as adept at lying, stirring or clinging).
It's impractical to suggest that people should have to remove themselves from the situation just to mollycoddle these people, so what's the best way to curb their behavior without having to inconvenience everyone ELSE?
Answer by kmath at 10:00 AM on Aug. 16, 2013
Answer by feralxat at 10:05 AM on Aug. 16, 2013
Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 10:07 AM on Aug. 16, 2013
Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 10:10 AM on Aug. 16, 2013
Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 10:16 AM on Aug. 16, 2013
Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 10:17 AM on Aug. 16, 2013
Answer by feralxat at 10:23 AM on Aug. 16, 2013
Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 10:26 AM on Aug. 16, 2013
Answer by kmath at 10:27 AM on Aug. 16, 2013