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how to get my son in his own bed ?

my 9 month old son sleeps with me he has no set rotine i also breast feed him and in the night he wakes at less 3 to 4 times for a feed or may.b to smooth him bk to sleep, i am at this stage takeing him off the breast and on2 the bottle which is going pretty well, this is day 2 . i also want him in his own bed but not to sure if i should do this str8 away, as i am weening him off the breast to a bottle, HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO

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Asked by mummyboy at 7:09 AM on Aug. 18, 2013 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • IMO, You shouldn't have let him sleep with you in the first place.
    It will be hard. But from now on. Do not sleep with him. Do not even let him sleep in your arms, on your lap. He falls asleep. Put him down.

    Answer by louise2 at 9:02 AM on Aug. 18, 2013

  • It was fine to let him sleep with you. But do ONE transition at a time. If you're weaning to the bottle, then complete that transition first. Then check out for an article titled "Changing the Sleep Pattern In the Family Bed." Best info on this subject.

    Be warned: Moving him and weaning him DOES NOT MEAN SLEEP. He will sleep all night in his bed when HE is good and ready and nothing you do will really impact that. They all do it when they are ready. Some are ready sooner, some are ready later. And again, nothing YOU do impacts that readiness either.

    Answer by gdiamante at 9:55 AM on Aug. 18, 2013

  • If you create a routine it will make all these transitions so much easier for your son (and in turn for you). Have a set time to wake up, eat meals, take naps and bedtime. It shouldn't be a rigid schedule, but a flexible routine.

    Answer by missanc at 2:05 PM on Aug. 18, 2013

  • Once you have weaned him off the breast, feed him, and put him to bed full but awake. Let him learn to soothe himself to sleep. It won't be easy because he's used to you doing it for him, but some soft music or white noise can help. My daughter had a crib toy with relaxing fish that she could watch. The more similar the nightly routine, the more it will get him used to the cues that tell him it's time to sleep.

    Answer by Ballad at 7:55 PM on Aug. 18, 2013

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