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Grandparent visitations and school functions?

The grandparent get visits every other weekend. But if there is a school function they feel imposed on and dont want to take the kids to the function. If I keep them at home and take them over afterwards they get upset. They say it interfers with their time. HELP

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emscy2

Asked by emscy2 at 7:15 AM on Aug. 19, 2013 in General Parenting

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  • I would have that visitation changed then to read that on the weekends there is a school or social function the weekends will be swapped for a different weekend.

    I would also try to get that in an email so that I had documentation of the imposition they feel causes.

    Good Luck
    GrandmaO2008

    Answer by GrandmaO2008 at 7:19 AM on Aug. 19, 2013

  • Typically any visitation is required to keep the kids schedule in mind. This includes school functions.

    Is this a court ordered visitation? If so, talk to the lawyer about the kids going to school functions. If not, just repeat "This is what they need to do. If you don't want to attend the school functions, then you need to wait" And stick by that.
    ChasingBridges

    Answer by ChasingBridges at 7:20 AM on Aug. 19, 2013

  • Is it court ordered visitation or is it just you being nice and letting the grandparents have the grandkids for the weekend visitation? If it's the first, then you'll have to go back to court and get it put in the order that either the grandparents take the kids to the functions, allow the kids to come over after the functions, or swap weekends for a non-function weekend. If it's just you being nice, then I'd just be blunt and tell them that the kids will not be missing these functions for weekends with them, and if they aren't willing to accommodate the functions, then the visitations (as they are now) will not continue.
    wendythewriter

    Answer by wendythewriter at 8:15 AM on Aug. 19, 2013

  • Is this a court ordered visitation? Or just what you allow, agreed upon?


    Simple,, change there weekends.

    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 8:17 AM on Aug. 19, 2013

  • you give up 2 weekends a month with your kids? the grandparents should consider this a privilege not a right

    school functions are important. if they don't have the kids best interest at heart and are being self centered and serving in the visits then maybe it's time to rethink the plan
    hibbingmom

    Answer by hibbingmom at 12:03 PM on Aug. 19, 2013

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