How do the parents of the "normal" children treat your kid(s)?
I REALLY hate having to go to anything where the parents are invited to the school,like holiday parties,orientation,field trips
I usually end up in tears
This last May,the kids had their DARE graduation. My son was the only one in class that you can tell has a disability. The kids filed in,and lined up,and from behind me,I hear,"what is wrong with that boy?" my son needed to be led by the hand to the risers,by one of his classmates.
I felt my anger rise,and then my eyes started to sting from the tears
I had to sit there for an hour and a half knowing that the mom behind me just singled out my son to everyone in earshot
When we left,I made sure I gave her the dirtiest look I could muster. She didn't even look sorry
In the 7 years my son has been in school,I have only had 1 parent who doesn't act like my son has the bubonic plague when their kid comes over by mine.And that one was because she has a son with asperger's. All the parents get the deer in the headlights look,and act like they want to grab their kid and run away. Every time I stand there and try to draw them into conversation,and they'll either answer in monosyllables,or stare right through me.
The kids,bless their hearts,have all learned to love him for who he is.
Why can't the parents learn from their kids?
Answer by fiatpax at 10:40 AM on Aug. 20, 2013
Answer by GrandmaO2008 at 10:50 AM on Aug. 20, 2013
Answer by tnm786 at 10:59 AM on Aug. 20, 2013
Answer by kmath at 10:45 AM on Aug. 20, 2013
Answer by GrandmaO2008 at 10:52 AM on Aug. 20, 2013
Speaking as a mom of "normal" kids, I think a lot of people in general are kind of afraid of things they don't understand. They don't know how to tell their kids about Autism because they don't understand it themselves. Instead of trying to understand they just push their kids to play with other "normal" kids so they don't have to learn about it or deal with the questions. That's just my take though. Personally, I prefer my kids to be a little curious and ask rather than automatically treat someone different than the other kids. When they ask me about things I don't understand completely, I give them at least a half assed explanation of what I do understand (enough to make me dangerous), but in a way that my kids understand that it isn't something the other child can control. I try to encourage them to ask questions, but in a diplomatic and kind way instead of blurting something offensive.
Answer by QuinnMae at 11:29 AM on Aug. 20, 2013
Answer by gdiamante at 1:36 PM on Aug. 20, 2013
Answer by fiatpax at 11:03 AM on Aug. 20, 2013
I don't want my kids to ever feel like they can turn their backs on something just because it's different, be it food, experiences or people. Life is about learning and adapting to our surroundings and the people in it. I don't want my kids to be afraid to learn from things they don't already understand.
I'm sorry that people are A-holes sometimes.
Answer by QuinnMae at 11:32 AM on Aug. 20, 2013
Answer by saphire_eyes802 at 12:12 PM on Aug. 20, 2013