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my son is 8 yr ,very active and enthusisastic in participating in all extra activities but is losing interest in studies wants to become a cricketer but thinks circketers don't need to study

so why to study

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Asked by shiva2005 at 1:31 AM on Aug. 26, 2013 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • You'll have to do your homework on the number of kids who play the game and the percentage of them who actually manage to become professional players. it will be a LOW percentage. And that's why he studies; the odds are against him.

    And even if he does make it, better to be the smartest player on the team than an ignoramus.

    Answer by gdiamante at 2:08 AM on Aug. 26, 2013

  • I don't know much about cricket but if its like other sports, only a handful of kids go pro after highschool. They need to go to college before going professiinal and his grades will somewhat determine where he can go. Also, you should have a family rule that he has to keep a minimum GPA (my limit is Cs - if my kids ever get a C then extra curriculars stop) in order for you to allow him to play.

    Answer by missanc at 5:50 AM on Aug. 26, 2013

  • tell him that even if he does become one, it won't last forever and he needs a good education as well.
    Also, in school or college he will need decent grades to play

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 7:26 AM on Aug. 26, 2013

  • Being allowed to take part in extra activities depends on good grades. No extras without good grades.

    Answer by silverthreads at 7:42 AM on Aug. 26, 2013

  • Ditto what silver threads said. Poor grades means loss of extracurricular activities. Period.

    Answer by QuinnMae at 9:07 AM on Aug. 26, 2013

  • No extra activities until the grades are acceptable.
    Extra curricular are just that, extra.
    Then limit the amount of extras he can do.
    He should also be doing chores around the house

    Answer by Dardenella at 9:19 AM on Aug. 26, 2013

  • Sounds like he is trying to use logic or rationalization to "answer" the issue, when you object to his grades or push him to study.
    But his lack of interest in studying doesn't likely come from thinking "I'm going to play cricket & cricketers don't need to study." More likely the LOSING INTEREST part is key, and the comments are simply justifications & reasoning. If he enjoyed the work, he'd be excelling in both areas. Sports & academic learning aren't mutually exclusive. Both pursuits express human capacities & potential. (People grow & develop intellectually, socially, aesthetically, physically & morally.)
    In a balanced & positive learning environment, people will develop all the various areas because they are not in conflict, and they're all part of being human. But too often it's NOT positive! I'd think his disinterest signals that things are off-track for him and he's internalized negativity & resistance around learning.

    Answer by girlwithC at 11:11 AM on Aug. 26, 2013

  • Look for ways you can address the issue that he doesn't feel invested in learning, and isn't motivated. See if you can team with his teacher(s) to address this from a positive direction, by connecting the work more to his actual purposes & the worth of it, rather than taking the "have to" approach. "Get him interested" being the goal rather than "Make him" or "Apply leverage to force him." If you are able to do this, you may see that the "make him" part ultimately isn't necessary, because you discover that you have a self-motivated learner on your hands, an engaged and purposeful human being. It's what we all can be (evidenced by the fact that we all are NATURAL learners & meaning-makers from our earliest infancy & childhood!) It's easy for circumstances to interfere with that natural love of learning & doing, but we can address the situation positively if we recognize it as evidence of a problem in the process or approach!

    Answer by girlwithC at 11:20 AM on Aug. 26, 2013

  • My first answer was going to be that nobody plays sports forever, and your son will need a career to fall back on, even if he is one of the very few who goes professional and eventually retires. But GirlwithC has a point. Is your son captivated by any subjects except sports? Does he have trouble in school, and maybe even hide it? How well is he reading? Does he read outside of school?

    Answer by Ballad at 1:42 PM on Aug. 26, 2013

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