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I'm curious at what your opinions are.
In our case it wasn't a full adoption it was a step parent adoption. I left my ex when my son was 6mth old(he became extremely abusive after our son was born, guess because he wasn't the center of attention anymore). I got counseling for my issues and then met my husband while my son was still very young. Ex hadn't seen the child or attempted since we left(he was required to have supervised visits, he did call me ONCE and stated he wanted to see the child so I told him Ok then get the visitation set up(with a visitation center) and he said "No I want to see you as well" I told him no and he never asked again.
Anyways we petitioned to have his rights terminated and after nearly 3 years of court(where he(ex) never fought it) we succeeded and finalized the adoption. Our son is nearly 6 now and of course doesn't remember biodad.
So should the child be told? If so when? And would your answer change if it was a full on adoption by a new family?
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