I am part of a group with a lot of other parents. The group was started by one woman, several years ago, when her kids were young. Her kids are now almost grown - 2 are, and the 3rd is only a couple of years away from adulthood. So, the woman who started the group is beginning to look ahead to when she has no children, and thus no real purpose for being in the group. She's already contemplating who should take over when she leaves. She's told me she thinks I'd be great at it.
I'm extremely flattered that she thinks that, I really am. But the truth is, I'm not so sure I would be so good at it. And even if I would be, I just don't think I want to take on the responsibility. I've organized one event for the group, and it was an enormous hassle that had me ready to tear my hair out by the time it was done. Plus, I have my own kids and job and life that I have to deal with, and I just don't see myself being able to add this to my plate without everything, including the group, suffering.
The thing is, she's not looking for me to take over right now, so I'm not sure what to do. Do I just tell her right now that I'm not really interested in taking over? Or do I wait until she approaches me in a year or two and tell her then? I feel like waiting would be kind of rude, because then she might be ready to leave but has to stay until she finds someone else, but I also feel that telling her now might be presumptuous because she didn't ask me to take over, merely said that she's thought of me for it and thinks I'd be great at it.
I also don't want to risk making things awkward (for me or for her) by saying it the wrong way, so I'm not sure exactly how I would tell her.
Any suggestions on what I should do?
(I do come here regularly, but I'm going anon because my screen name is fairly easily recognizable and I'd hate for her or another member of the group to come across this, and I can't be sure none of them are on here.)
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