I spoke to an old friend on facebook last night. She and I grew up together, were the best of friends for years (20+ yrs).
6 yrs ago I moved about 2 hours away, she had come for my wedding (she was my maid of honor), got stupid drunk at my house (where we had the reception), was crying about her then boyfriend, that she brought along, and pretty much made the day/evening about her.. My Hubby was very upset, and said he didn't want her back at our home if she was going to disrespect me, and our wedding day. She didn't say she was sorry, and they left because she and her boyfriend were fighting. (She's since married him)
So 6 years have passed, and we don't keep in touch. I thought it was because we've both been so busy with kids, our lives, over the past few years. But, she tells me that my Sister (that lives near her) told her that my Husband hates her, and that's why she hasn't made a trip to see us, and not stayed in touch with me.
My Sister and I do not speak. She's a drunk, and I don't want her around my kids, and she knows it. My Husband never said anything like that to her, or anyone for that matter. He was just upset for me when he said he didn't want her at our home if she was going to disrespect us. But my friend knew he was upset, but he never said he hated her.
I'm not sure if the friendship is worth saving. We didn't argue during the conversation on facebook, it just seemed weird after she told me what my Sister said to her. Apparently she and my Sister are good friends now, and they never really knew each other until 6 yrs ago at my wedding... I'm sorry if this didn't make sense.
During the conversation I told her I was sorry for not being a good friend, and not staying in touch like I should have. I was hoping it was a way to try to get our friendship back on track. But instead it opened the door for her to tell me what my Sister said about my Husband hating her. Ugh, I just wanted to turn off my computer and pretend the conversation never took place. But I didn't. I told her I stay way from my Sister because of the drama she creates. I also told her I was sorry for what she said to her, and that my Husband doesn't hate her. She then said it's no big deal, and we should get together sometime for lunch, but she won't come here. My question is, if it's not a big deal, then why bring it up in the first place, and why not come here to visit? I realize because she doesn't believe me when I tell her that my Husband doesn't hate her, but we're adults, not seventh graders..... What do you all think? TIA
Asked by Anonymous at 8:33 PM on Aug. 29, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by wendythewriter at 7:55 AM on Aug. 30, 2013
That sounds like a lot of drama and I personally don't have time for drama in my life.
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