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what can i do to help my daughter to start talking?

i have a second baby who is 8 months old.

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Asked by clara80 at 4:41 AM on Aug. 30, 2013 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • The best thing you can do is ... talk to her! As obvious as it seems that's what you need to do. Talk to her all the time. And talk to the baby too. Even if it's just to tell her what you're doing when you change her, what you made for dinner, what the weather's like, etc. It really doesn't matter what it's about as long as you talk.

    How old is she?

    Answer by goldpandora at 5:12 AM on Aug. 30, 2013

  • How old is she? Does she understand what you say to her? Can she follow directions? Does she babble or say anything?

    Answer by missanc at 5:39 AM on Aug. 30, 2013

  • Tlk to her, sing to her. Play games that involve words. Make sure her hearing is OK.

    Answer by Bmat at 7:33 AM on Aug. 30, 2013

  • Talking & reading to your toddler both are important. But also tune in TO her. Pay attention to what she is doing, noticing, & attempting to communicate. Respond to those. And simplify your communication to some extent at those times, to emphasize the significant words. So if you notice her watching something for a bit, follow her gaze to see what she is interested in. And focus on "joining" her when you speak, not distracting her focus. So you'd be noticing & naming the garbage truck or the cat (etc.), verbalizing her experience. When she's trying to communicate a need or tell you something, show your understanding of it by reflecting back the message, keeping it simple & emphasizing the key words. "You want MILK" or "More crackers?" or "Yes, a doggy!"
    Read language-rich stories at whatever level of detail holds her interest but spend some time looking through very simple books & emphasize the word for each image (car, bear.)

    Answer by girlwithC at 8:56 AM on Aug. 30, 2013

  • Talk to her and if she wants something require her to tell you what she wants.

    Answer by Dardenella at 9:02 AM on Aug. 30, 2013

  • Doing those types of things is "providing scaffolding" for her as she develops. You meet her where she is, and build out some support from that point.
    Talking in a more conversational, chatty way is important for many kinds of development and she may demonstrate clear understanding of what you're communicating, which confirms that her receptive language is well-developed. But it can be harder for some toddlers to translate that "grasp" to their own verbal attempts. This was true for my twins.
    Our doctor observed that they were ahead of what she'd expect in their receptive language (they could follow highly complex multi-part instructions with ease) and they were signing words, and also using a lot of initial sounds/consonants of words (often with a sign) so "ba" for ball, book, bath, baby. She suggested simplifying our communication, emphasizing the key words (even just MORE! vs "more milk") to support their emerging language.

    Answer by girlwithC at 9:06 AM on Aug. 30, 2013

  • Talk to her and read to her.

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 1:53 PM on Aug. 30, 2013

  • You've gotten great suggestions. Also, don't let your daughter get away with too much pointing and grunting or whining. Encourage her to use her words, and don't be too quick to give her what she's indicating she wants. Wait for her to say "milk" before handing her a cup. Those few seconds of delay will give her a chance to spit the words out. I think a lot of kids are slower to talk because they don't need to, since someone is already rushing to do what they're asking from the nonverbal cues.

    Answer by Ballad at 2:16 PM on Aug. 30, 2013

  • lmao i was about to say the same as ballad lol try not to let her grunt and point at things but that's more for when she is a little older. for right now at her age just keep talking and repeat repeat repeat repeat lol make it fun for her and when she does babble and try to speak react to it in a positive way. When my daughter talks to me i smile and nod my head and listen while she gets it out then i respond and let her talk some more. practice conversations lol she only says baba over and over but to her she is speaking volumes (7 months old)

    Answer by nnh_mama at 2:27 PM on Aug. 30, 2013

  • Talking to her can help like pointing out things you see, and you can also teach both kids sign language. Even it is just the basic everyday needs/wants/people in house or life.

    Answer by Novmeber2006 at 3:01 AM on Sep. 3, 2013

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