i filed for divorce due to domestic violence but he hates me now and wants nothing to do with me for calling the cops on him. i want a friendship so we can parent our child without drama but he hates me so much we can't even have a conversation. he says i ruined his career which i didn't, he did. he told me theres a woman out there for him and i am not it. is there any reasoning with this guy? i try to let it go but he has our child and i want to keep in contact! now he bother's me about money all the time.. he has custody while i am deployed.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:33 PM on Feb. 18, 2009 in Relationships
If I were an abuse victim, my child would not be living with my abuser. Visits would be fine but living arrangements would not occur unless he had completed and graduated court-ordered counseling and anger management of some sorts. I know it is hard since you are deployed but can a family member have custody of your child while you are away? Of course he doesn't want to be your friend. You got him into trouble. It doesn't matter if he deserved it or not, he doesn't see it as you doing the right thing because it negatively affected him. Having your child live with a family member might be the safest thing for your child and the best thing for you if you expect cooperation in being able to have contact with your child while you are away. It sounds as though he might use his custody of your child to "get back at you" for getting him into trouble. I would not allow that. Children should not be used as weapons.
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