I need some advice from other women who have went through the same thing as I'm going through....
--The other day my fiance and I had an argument about stupid crap and some stuff went down.. He decided it might be best if he went back and stayed with his parents for a couple days and we were okay when we left, we had even kissed and hugged and he told me he loved me and we would still be together and raise this child together.. The next day he woke up with a change of heart, he told me it would be best if we broke up and everything... My heart was broken, and it still is very broken... I am 7 months pregnant ! Though, the whole time we lived together he never acted like he wanted this child, never touched my belly, never wanted to feel him move unless I placed his hand on my belly myself.. But now he texts me telling me he wants to see his son, and everything but I don't know if I should give him any rights to him.. A lot of people have told me I shouldn't give the baby his last name and I Shouldn't let him see him after he just abandoned me pregnant like that... But it's so hard knowing my child will grow up in a broken home, and the daddy won't see him come into this world in the delivery room with me.... I am so confused and I need some advice.... This guy was abusive, he threw me into walls, put a pillow over my face to get me to shut up during an argument.. And he would throw my other children around, and slap them way too hard..
Please help ! I am depressed and confused....
Answer by m-avi at 8:08 PM on Aug. 31, 2013
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Answer by virginiamama71 at 8:42 PM on Aug. 31, 2013
If the child is his then he will have rights whether you want him to or not. It's not up to you, it's up to the courts if he persues it. If I were you, I would stop taking his calls. I would have the baby and give the baby YOUR last name. I would not call him and allow him to be there for the birth and I would not allow him to sign the birth certificate. If he wants to see the baby and be a part of his child's life, then he can do the work of getting an order for a DNA test, going to court to seek visitation and at the same time you can seek an order for child support. If eventually you want to give the child his last name then you can agree to it and have it done, but as of now it doesn't change. If someone left me pregnant at 7 months he would have to do a whole lot of work to get back in good graces to spend time with an innocent child. Not to mention his abusive nature that you mentioned.
Answer by QuinnMae at 8:45 PM on Aug. 31, 2013
Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 8:57 PM on Aug. 31, 2013