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Is this rude or simply an oversight?

Every time my SIL throws a party at their house, whether it's a child's bday or a Christmas party, she never invites us. The only way we find out about parties at their house is my MIL invites us. I do not think it is her place to do so. My SIL always has the same excuse, she thought her husband was going to invite us, however she invites everyone else in the family. She never speaks to us.

My husband and her husband are brothers, that's how we are related.

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txnmomof4

Asked by txnmomof4 at 6:30 PM on Sep. 1, 2013 in Relationships

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  • ONCE is an oversight. EVERY time is a HUGE RED FLAG that she's intentionally cutting you out. Your husband needs to have a serious talk with his brother on this.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 6:33 PM on Sep. 1, 2013

  • So she doesn't like you. Does that upset you?

    I would think you wouldn't want to go somewhere you aren't welcome.

    Have you husband talk with his brother if you want.
    tntmom1027

    Answer by tntmom1027 at 6:33 PM on Sep. 1, 2013

  • Rude. An oversight is forgetting to invite you once. Could be lazy since she knows the MIL will extend the invite. I would stop going.
    2autisticsmom

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 6:35 PM on Sep. 1, 2013

  • Rude. Just like my SIL.
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 6:36 PM on Sep. 1, 2013

  • When your MIL invites you does your family still attend?
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 6:41 PM on Sep. 1, 2013

  • @ virginiamama71 no we do not, I feel it is not her place to do so. If they wanted us to attend they would invite us.

    txnmomof4

    Comment by txnmomof4 (original poster) at 6:44 PM on Sep. 1, 2013

  • What kind of relationship do the brothers have?
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 6:46 PM on Sep. 1, 2013

  • We were all super close until the brother got together with her, he quit coming around.
    txnmomof4

    Comment by txnmomof4 (original poster) at 6:50 PM on Sep. 1, 2013

  • I would mention it to your husband and let him speak to his brother as he wishes.
    You know that it is not only the SIL who can invite people right?
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 6:52 PM on Sep. 1, 2013

  • Dardenella do you mean his brother can also? Ya I thought of that. She invites everyone else. He says he assumes she is inviting us.
    txnmomof4

    Comment by txnmomof4 (original poster) at 6:55 PM on Sep. 1, 2013

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