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since second child arrived in our life I wanted less sex. how to keep my husband faithful?

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Asked by PG2013 at 11:52 PM on Sep. 2, 2013 in Relationships

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  • It's called "mommy mode". Your sexual needs have taken a backseat to the needs of your growing family. Dirty diapers and puke stained clothes don't make anyone feel sexy.
    Take some time for just the tow of you. Schedule a date night, get a sitter, and re-connect.

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 11:56 PM on Sep. 2, 2013

  • you shouldn't be worried about him cheating, if your marriage is strong and he loves you he wont cheat. but you should maybe discuss with a doctor your libido change.. or for your hubbys sake at least him the poor guy out every once in a while.. you never know.. maybe if you tell him to put a little more effort into it.. (little bit of a back rub before hand or whatever) you will end up in the mood....?

    Answer by nnh_mama at 11:56 PM on Sep. 2, 2013

  • Well, how long has it been since the baby came? How often are you wanting sex, and how often would your husband like to enjoy it? Do you hav access to a sitter so you can have any alone time, whether you use it for intimacy or not? Have you had a discussion about all of this with him? Are you off of sex because your tired out from your mommy responsibilities, or is there more to it than that

    Answer by Ballad at 11:58 PM on Sep. 2, 2013

  • When you do have it make it REALLY good. Quality not quantity. Also, closeness is really important too. So snuggle up. It can't hurt.

    Answer by tessiedawg at 12:00 AM on Sep. 3, 2013

  • Kids take a lot of time and attention but so do husbands. They need you to focus your love on them in a one on one personal way. That may mean asking parents and in laws to babysit so you can have a night out. Communication is very important and so is physical contact.

    Answer by Dardenella at 12:25 AM on Sep. 3, 2013

  • Lack of sleep will do that to ya. Like the others have suggested, set a date night for just the 2 of you.

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 7:39 AM on Sep. 3, 2013

  • Well,is he being pissy from going daily to every few days,or have you gone long periods with none?
    I've always hated the attitude that if a man doesn't get sex from his wife that he will start getting it elsewhere. Have these guys never heard of masturbation? When he was single,was he getting it daily?! Bah!

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:48 AM on Sep. 3, 2013

  • I have two questions:

    How old is baby?

    And why do you assume he will be unfaithful?

    Answer by gdiamante at 1:44 PM on Sep. 3, 2013

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