My dds dad is currently in jail. He has been in and out of her life since she was 2mnths old! Dd is 5. I also have a2 yr old by another man who helped raise my 5 yr old. Well me and my 2 yr old father are not together anymore. But is still involved in both of their life's! Well the other day my oldest had an absolute meltdown bc she wants her sisters dad to be her dad too. I went on to tell her that "bud" can be her daddy too if that's how she feels... She started cryin and said but i can't have two daddy's. I went on to tell her that you can and its ok. That seemed to help but I'm soo pissed that this I even an issue!
I am mad at my self for letting him walk in and out of her life but I was also young and stupid (17). I tried my best so that men I dated wouldn't come in and out too. So I guess my ? Is should I wright him a letter and let him know exactly what he is doing to my daughter?! I have tried to talk to him b4 he got locked up and I would get comments like " yea I bet she is trying to get ahold of me" ( left messages with his rm mate and other baby momma) the only time he speaks to my dd is I she is with his sons mom! Why bc he's mad at me bc I garnished his disability check for support! So should I wright him or no?
Asked by Anonymous at 4:26 PM on Sep. 3, 2013 in General Parenting
Answer by PartyGalAnne at 4:35 PM on Sep. 3, 2013
Answer by Dardenella at 4:44 PM on Sep. 3, 2013
Maybe you should have led or ended with this:
So I guess my ? Is should I wright him a letter and let him know exactly what he is doing to my daughter?
This is something only you can answer. Will this bring you closure? Do you expect that he will be honest and caring when you ask him this, or do you expect him to act like he has the entirety of your DD's existence? Will you be more pissed when he gives you what you want and it ends up being empty rhetoric? I honestly don't see the point. He doesn't care. You writing him a letter won't make him care more than he does now. It will just make you more frustrated, angry and resentful. Do what you feel you need to do.
Answer by QuinnMae at 5:08 PM on Sep. 3, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 6:00 PM on Sep. 3, 2013
Answer by gdiamante at 7:00 PM on Sep. 3, 2013