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How Do You Get Your Teen To Do Their Chores?

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Asked by jewelrygirl34 at 8:13 AM on Sep. 4, 2013 in Teens (13-17)

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  • bribery...and reminders

    you don't clean your room- you cannot have people over/ leave
    clean the bathroom before you go...
    if you want your allowance this, this and that need to be done TODAY

    that kind of thing

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 8:14 AM on Sep. 4, 2013

  • Cattle prod, it works wonders.

    Jk btw. I just yell lol

    Answer by funlovinlady at 8:25 AM on Sep. 4, 2013

  • FLL
    the hose doesnt leave marks

    Answer by feralxat at 8:29 AM on Sep. 4, 2013

  • True feral. Could also use soap in a sick.

    Answer by funlovinlady at 8:34 AM on Sep. 4, 2013

  • Sock**

    Answer by funlovinlady at 8:34 AM on Sep. 4, 2013

  • Never figured it out. I imagine if you pay them a good amount of money, they would do it.

    Answer by louise2 at 8:56 AM on Sep. 4, 2013

  • Won't do chores, then no driving, no phone, no privileges.

    Answer by MrsLeftlane at 9:41 AM on Sep. 4, 2013

  • Work on relationship & addressing the reasons for the unwillingness.
    Prevention is best (starting out positive early on, rather than control-based.) But otherwise it's just a matter of addressing the adversarial dynamic that developed because of that lack of prevention.
    Responding to any issue in ways that support the relationship & lead to more connection tends to correct the dynamic that is CAUSING the resistance, CAUSING the lack of cooperation. This is true at any point--earlier in childhood or right smack in the middle of the teen years.
    We (humans) all tend to cooperate and contribute willingly when we feel good (in other words, when we feel close, respected, valued, autonomous, and "seen" or understood for who we are & what we intend.) Try to relate & respond (to the opposition) in ways that affirm & strengthen THOSE conditions in the teen -----> feelings of being respected, accurately understood, valued.

    Answer by girlwithC at 10:03 AM on Sep. 4, 2013

  • My boys responded best if I left them a reminder note with a deadline of when everything has to be done, and then left them alone to set their own schedule. They hated being nagged and would get very stubborn, but if I gave them some power in it, such as "I want four things off this list completed by bedtime tomorrow" and left it at that, they got it done

    Answer by Nimue930 at 10:13 AM on Sep. 4, 2013

  • Also- MAKE sure to thank them. I don't remember my mother ever thankng me and it always made me feel like her slave or something. I make sure to always thank my kids when they help out or have done what I asked

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 10:17 AM on Sep. 4, 2013

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