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I am wondering how many separations actually lead to reconciliation and in general what results and thoughts the separation brought. My husband has struggled with some mental health problems and related addiction (self medicating nonstop with marijuana). For the past few weeks he has been back and forth, moved out, moved in, moved out, moved in, etc. For a little while he was resisting getting help, and at times knew he needed it. Finally got meds a week ago and there has been a little improvement, but today he is out. I'm drained... He is verbally abusive, makes accusations that conflict with other accusations and statements he makes. I have been trying to keep the perspective that things will change when he adjusts, however, he has not smoked pot for a week now and is back at his mom's (where his alcoholic brother lives) and I'm fairly certain the non-smoking will come to an end today. I have spoken to lawyers already through the family violence hotline following his meltdown on a trip home across the country to my grandfather's funeral.
Tell me about your experience with separation and how that helped your final decisions, etc.
(note: I am not interested in a debate about pot - I am a supporter of legalization but have experienced firsthand how marijuana is truly addictive both mentally and physically - there is a little known condition - because here we focus on criminal behavior of pot versus medical benefits and harmful effects - called cannabis hyperemesis that I have witnessed firsthand. I haven't been on here in a while mainly because of the drama and sidebar conversations I'm hoping have died down)
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