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How do I get my husband to...

Every Saturday my husband want's to stay up till 2 or 3 in the
morning to watch his shows. How do I get him to go to bed with me?
Without sounding like I'm telling him what to do or sounding naggy.

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Asked by Mycutelittleboy at 3:30 AM on Sep. 9, 2013 in Relationships

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Answers (17)
  • Easy. You say "Hey, Honey, let's go have wild monkey sex!"

    Answer by goldpandora at 3:38 AM on Sep. 9, 2013

  • Why does it matter? I would start by explaining that to him - that there things you want to get Sunday so you need to get an early start, that you want to feel him next to you, etc. Is there a tv in your bedroom that he could watch while still being with you? He's a grown man and can do what you want but if you make a good case, he might be willing to listen.

    Answer by missanc at 5:46 AM on Sep. 9, 2013

  • ...why is it a problem that he comes to bed after you?

    I guess I'm used to not sleeping with mine since he has worked nights off and on since we have been together- you just go to bed when you are tired and let him go when he's ready
    *unless there is some other info you aren't giving us about it

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 7:04 AM on Sep. 9, 2013

  • I know it is nice to have one's husband to curl up with in bed, but if his schedule is different from yours, then maybe it won't work out for him to go to bed when you do. You can try for a compromise- you go to bed later and he goes earlier. Be sure that he knows that you would prefer his being in bed with you the whole time- one telling is not nagging.

    Answer by Bmat at 8:18 AM on Sep. 9, 2013

  • What is wrong with him staying up?

    Answer by louise2 at 8:19 AM on Sep. 9, 2013

  • Personally, I find it a treat to go to bed alone once in a while and fall asleep by myself. Not that I don't love myboyfriend, but it's just relaxing to lay there without any contact sometimes. Try finding pleasure in it.

    Answer by Ballad at 11:30 AM on Sep. 9, 2013

  • There is a tv in the bedroom. But he want's
    time just to himself. I guess the part that bothers
    me is that he stay's up so late. He drinks coffee
    at 10 and 11:00 at night just to stay up late and
    watch all of his shows. I thought married couples
    are supposed to go to bed with each other,like
    in the olden days.

    Comment by Mycutelittleboy (original poster) at 11:33 AM on Sep. 9, 2013

  • Be happy you know where he is.

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 11:56 AM on Sep. 9, 2013

  • Have you tried telling him how you feel/what you want? Maybe you can compromise with him, like that he goes to bed with you 2-3 times/week and then you don't bother him about staying up the other nights.

    Answer by missanc at 12:38 PM on Sep. 9, 2013

  • What's wrong with ONE night a week to himself? He's not out at a bar until 2-3am. He's on the couch watching TV!!

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 12:40 PM on Sep. 9, 2013

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