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Is it rude or offensive when someone refers to your baby as

... it? Instead of him or her or baby? They just say "it " .


Asked by staciandababy at 1:11 AM on Sep. 11, 2013 in Babies (0-12 months)

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Answers (7)
  • Depends on the context.

    If the baby is bald and wearing gender neutral colors I wouldn't be that bothered. If it was clear which gender the baby was, and someone was calling it "it" to intentionally be a jerk, then I'd get super pissed.

    Answer by Rosehawk at 1:18 AM on Sep. 11, 2013

  • If I can't tell the gender I talk to the baby and say " Well hello! What's your name?"
    And then the mom says her name is ______ and I don't look dumb.

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 2:24 AM on Sep. 11, 2013

  • It would very much depend on the tone that was used to say it. Some people can be very clumsy when they're trying to avoid offending (because they can't tell if you have a boy or a girl).

    In any case, I'd just smile and say "Her/his name is..."

    Answer by goldpandora at 3:44 AM on Sep. 11, 2013

  • It's a little unsettling, I guess, but if a stranger refers to a baby as "it" instead of guessing the wrong gender, I suppose that's understandable.

    Answer by Ballad at 1:21 AM on Sep. 11, 2013

  • I always ask "how old is the baby?" if I can not tell if boy or girl. Then the resulting conversation helps me determine. It's not very thoughtful to use 'it'.

    Answer by silverthreads at 7:48 AM on Sep. 11, 2013

  • Not really. Does depend on context.

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 9:27 AM on Sep. 11, 2013

  • Why wouldn't someone say what a "cute baby" if they can't tell the gender. weird.

    Answer by liss05 at 10:36 AM on Sep. 11, 2013