My bf and I have been together on and off for 4 1/2 years. I left because I wasn't happy with our living arrangements. Then he cursed me out and called me such and such, I said my share so I didn't hold it against him. Then I recently saw some emails in his facebook account where (to numerous friends) he was down talking me and making me seem like damn near the devil. I confronted him about it and he said, it was old I was mad. Let it go if you find something new then ok, I was wrong but old is old you can't go scooping things from years ago. I didn't let it go, but I did drop it. I feel if you would lie to your friends for sympathy, you need help and you'll do it again. You want to make yourself seem like the victim. Not cool.
Well, as of today he messaged one of his friends. And in the message his friend said "hey I have a bottle and a room (hotel) you wanna come hang out.' I don't agree with him hanging out with a guy in a room first of all. And I know he would lie and tell me he was going elsewhere. But besides that "his response was, I don't know I'm locked down and I know Im going to hear it.' We have two kids. He comes home and does what he wants to do when he gets off work. I can tell him I have a broken leg Im still expected to make dinner and get the kids to bed, while he's rolled up in a cover sleep. I do understand he works, but on fridays he can leave work and stay out until 12am. I'm over the down talking. My foot is halfway out the door. Im considering confronting him on the text messages but I'm furious right now. SHould I confront him of his loose tongue again or is this normal of men to downtalk their mate?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:31 AM on Sep. 12, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by QuinnMae at 8:41 AM on Sep. 12, 2013
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Answer by wendythewriter at 9:13 AM on Sep. 12, 2013
Honestly, there are things in your post that point out that there are deeper issues than just him sending messages that painted you in a bad light. You don't sound like you trust him and you sound as though you are already done. Why try to salvage something with someone you don't trust? If you feel like you want to try to make this relationship work, you will have to put some things behind you. I'm not suggesting that you forget the things he wrote about you, but you will ultimately have to forgive him and to try to see things from another point of view going forward. Communication seems like its a problem since he felt it easier to write about you to his friends than to talk to you about that. I would suggest couples counseling if you want to try to repair the relationship. I just am not getting that vibe from your original post though.
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