My MIL passed away on Wednesday. My husband is there now with his family, they all live about 8 hours north. I couldn't leave with him because of work but the funeral isn't until next Friday. I could drive up there later this week, but I'd have to bring our pretty active 5 year old. I don't know if it's the right place for him at this time though. We'd be staying at my MIL's house with my husband's stepdad and I just really don't know if that's the best place for a little kid who doesn't understand what's going on. My husband (and the rest of the family) has said they really would like for us to be there but they all understand if we can't make it.
I'd feel REALLY bad though if we weren't there, or at least if I wasn't but I won't have anyone to take our son for a couple days if I go alone. I feel a bit guilty too because although of course I'd like to be there for them, I really, really, really, hate funerals. I just can't keep my composure at them. But I want to be there for my husband. I don't know what to do! Since they've always lived so far away my son wasn't really close with my MIL. We've gone to visit a few times but it's been over a year since the last time he saw her. But he's still family and her other 2 grandchildren will be there so I'm sure she would have liked my son there too. I just don't know. What would you do?
Sorry so long...and no idea which category this should go in.
Answer by Ginger0104 at 7:24 PM on Sep. 13, 2013
Answer by feralxat at 7:25 PM on Sep. 13, 2013
Answer by rachel216 at 7:27 PM on Sep. 13, 2013
Answer by NotPanicking at 7:27 PM on Sep. 13, 2013
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Answer by kmath at 7:32 PM on Sep. 13, 2013
Answer by Izsarejman at 7:33 PM on Sep. 13, 2013
I would not take him..funerals are traumatic for children who can't understand death...I made the mistake of letting my 5 year old attend her grandfather's funeral, and she had all kinds of trauma from it...I ended up taking her to psychologists for many years...if there is a way you can avoid taking the 5 year old do it....
Answer by older at 7:35 PM on Sep. 13, 2013
Answer by feralxat at 7:35 PM on Sep. 13, 2013