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Are you that neighbor? adult content

I pulled in the driveway of my SO's place at 6ish last night. His neighbor came up to my car and motioned for me to roll down my window. He offered to let me park my car in his garage so that the ashes from his fire wouldn't get on my car. I declined gracefully. Car needs to be washed anyway.

Neighbor continued chatting with me about his week and offering to help me with my bags. I declined as I only had 3 this week.

Later, SO and I were grilling out and having a fire in the backyard. Neighbor came back to talk to us at least 7 different times.

He KNOWS I only see my SO on the weekends. And he had about 1/2 dozen people over himself so it wasn't like he was lonely.

We love spending time together just the 2 of us around the fire. We need that time to reconnect after not seeing each other all week.

How do we deal with this?


Asked by tempsingl3mom at 12:27 PM on Sep. 14, 2013 in Relationships

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Answers (15)
  • Spend ten minutes with him. Then gracefully disengage by telling him, "Nice chatting with you. Have a great night" and going INSIDE until he's gone back in. Then go to your fire.

    Answer by gdiamante at 2:34 PM on Sep. 14, 2013

  • He seems to do this every time you go to your SO' s house.
    Maybe it's time to be honest with him and tell him you're there for your SO and now is really not a good time to come over.

    Answer by KTElite at 12:32 PM on Sep. 14, 2013

  • Your neighbor reminds me of the neighbor on the movie Extract. The wife finally stood up to the neighbor and he had a heart attack and died. Point is, I wouldn't keep holding in the "oh, my god, here he comes again". I would just be firm and if you are busy or have plans, politely let him know.


    Answer by JeremysMom at 12:41 PM on Sep. 14, 2013

  • It's hard when you have overly nice people like that. You don't want to ruin a good thing, so to speak, since good neighbors are hard to come by. I guess you & your SO will have to find a gentle way to let him know you'd like to be alone. GL

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 12:42 PM on Sep. 14, 2013

  • Put a gate up with a lock on it so he can't just walk to the back yard.

    Answer by ohwrite at 3:46 PM on Sep. 14, 2013

  • He sounds like he is trying to be friendly.
    Is there a reason you can't be with your SO and other people?
    If that is the case you might want to think about that.

    Answer by Dardenella at 12:43 PM on Sep. 14, 2013

  • Why hasn't your SO told him to bugger off yet?

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 12:51 PM on Sep. 14, 2013

  • This is the same neighbor, right?

    Tell him he needs to stay on his own side of the yard.

    Does he pest your SO like this when you're not there?

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 1:23 PM on Sep. 14, 2013

  • To answer the question- No that's not me.

    Answer by staciandababy at 1:39 PM on Sep. 14, 2013

  • If he pesters your SO when you aren't there, then it's a chronic problem with him. Those people are hard to chase off.

    Answer by Ballad at 2:54 PM on Sep. 14, 2013

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