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how do you discipline your 12 yr old daughter when youve tried spanking,extra chores,and taking things and activities away?

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Tjl1983

Asked by Tjl1983 at 3:55 PM on Sep. 16, 2013 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • go Amish style, nothing in her life the needs to be plugged in. Cancel any dance, sports, music lessons etc til she pulls it together. A simple 2-4 paragraph code of conduct between the two of you. what you expect from her and what she can expect in return

    hibbingmom

    Answer by hibbingmom at 3:59 PM on Sep. 16, 2013

  • well, that dpends on what she is being punished FOR...

    there is not enough info here to even begin to give you advice- other than stop spanking her
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 3:59 PM on Sep. 16, 2013

  • @charlotesomtimes
    She continuously talks back at home and at school interfering witth her grades and also aat home she is totally disrespectful with her mouth,actions(rolling eyes,wnt clean up,has to have last word ect but does not cuss so I recieved a phne call from school saying she wont stop talking and disrupting in class so wat would you do?
    Tjl1983

    Comment by Tjl1983 (original poster) at 4:10 PM on Sep. 16, 2013

  • She's entirely too old to be spanked so stop that, first off.

    You may want to switch gears and reward good behavior rather than punishing bad behavior, to a point. A lot of 12 year old kids get mouthy and disrespectful at this age. Your discipline has to evolve with the age of the child and their maturity level.
    Mrs_Prissy

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 4:15 PM on Sep. 16, 2013

  • @Mrs_prissy she doesnt get a spanking often but two minutes after rewarding she doing something else she very ungrateful
    so wat do you do?
    Tjl1983

    Comment by Tjl1983 (original poster) at 4:22 PM on Sep. 16, 2013

  • spanking is just to put it lightly but it doesnt happen very often
    Tjl1983

    Comment by Tjl1983 (original poster) at 4:24 PM on Sep. 16, 2013

  • This is too broad. What is the problem ? What exactly is she doing?
    Fit the punishment to the crime.
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 4:25 PM on Sep. 16, 2013

  • She's 12. Of course she's ungrateful. If you're expecting gratitude all the time you're going to be disappointed. Kids don't operate that way

    I told you what I'd do. You have to be consistent. It's not going to be a miracle cure where you enforce the rules once and everything is all better. You have to decide on a plan and stick with it.
    Mrs_Prissy

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 4:25 PM on Sep. 16, 2013

  • rolling eyes and getting mouthy are totally normal for a 12 yr old. Mine didn't get into *too* much trouble for it, but I DID let them know, that they were still going to do what I asked and they could rll thier eyes all they want, and if they want to get mouthy-they can do it in their room. She is almost a teenager and spanking is NOT how to handle any issue from a 12 yr old. She is growing up, and is entitled to her feelings. Also, what Mrs_Prissy said about them being grateful...yeah, GOOD luck with that one.

    as for the problems at school, has the teacher tried moving her?

    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 4:31 PM on Sep. 16, 2013

  • spanking is just to put it lightly but it doesnt happen very often

    IMO at 12 this should not happen.
    DJDNY

    Answer by DJDNY at 4:31 PM on Sep. 16, 2013

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