for some back round info. i have two girls one 5 the other almost 2. they have difrrent bio dads but share the same father. im 22 their dad is 26 now. we havent been together in almost 1 1/2 yrs. he and his cousin were really close bc her mother and step father litterally treat her like a slave and have been abusive towards her. so she ould confide in him. (her step father is an alocholic and bio dad is dead). this cousin of his also trys to act like an adult example she smokes both pot and cigs,been having sex since shes 12 has had many diffrent partners and so on!
ok so heres my problem. last week my ex called me and asked if i knew why two cops ould be at his door. (he was home but didnt answer the door). of course i didnt know why! so he calls the officer (they left a card w/number) and the officer said that he wants to ask him questions about his relationship with his cousin.
yesterday i took him to the police station so he could answer these questions about thier realtionship. well when he comes back to the car he asks if we can go to the park and talk. at this pont i knew something was up but didnt think i was going to hear what he had to say next!!! we get to the park and he looks at me and goes, R (we will say r in refrance to me and B for him) they are going to charge me with sexual misconduct with a minor. WTF!! im asking B why (he told me they had been sending text back and forth and some of them look inapproiate), he said me and my cousin have been sleeping together!!!!! so im asking him all the questions anyone would ask. like why would you sleep with your cousin, when how many times, wtf were you thinking etc.. he tells me its been going on for about a yr (so at 14 shes 15 now). that it was consentual between them and he didnt know why or how it started but it did. he said when him and i started having our problems him and her fell in love with each other! to make it even worse then what it is the time frame he gave me means he cheated on me with her. he told me that he has wanted to break it off for a while but felt trap and didnt know how she would react or what she would do?!???
in my state this charge is a class d felony carries 6yrs max. so he will do maybe 3yrs and probation plus have to register as a sex offender! im in utter shock and disguest! my world is in a tail spin headed stright to hell!! im completly disguested with him i cant even look at him!! he asked me if i would bring my daughter to the jail to see him and if i would ever be with him again after this! omfg no i cannt be with you again. im soo unbelieveable hurt and sad! mainly for my children they just lost the only father they have ever known. What do i do!???? i never would have thought he would or could do this....HELP PLEASE!!!!!
Asked by Anonymous at 7:54 PM on Sep. 17, 2013 in General Parenting
Answer by virginiamama71 at 7:59 PM on Sep. 17, 2013
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:10 PM on Sep. 17, 2013
Answer by RyansMom001 at 8:24 PM on Sep. 17, 2013
Answer by luvmygrandgirl at 8:29 PM on Sep. 17, 2013
Your kids are young, so don't give them all the details now. Tell them their dad did something wrong and will likely be going to jail for sometime. Reassure your kids that you will be there for them, and encourage them to ask you any questions they have.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 8:29 PM on Sep. 17, 2013
Answer by tempsingl3mom at 8:33 PM on Sep. 17, 2013
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Answer by QuinnMae at 8:51 PM on Sep. 17, 2013