The mother and father agreed to joint custody and no one pays CS. This was fine when they live in the same school district but no the child's father (my son) has moved about 45 minutes away on a good traffic day. This makes it hard on DGS so he has been staying full time under his mother's roof Except for 3 days, every other week. Mom is happy to have him there and he is stable at school. DDIL manages the household finances. She is constantly angry at the expenses of school and extra curricular activities. By court order both pay half for one EA. If either wants him to be able to do more they either have to agree or the one parent pays all. Each parent has the veto power over the EA but,he must be allowed to take one that he wants at any given time. This isn't happening. The school clothes that she does purchased are thrift store. Nothing wrong with that but they still need to be lightly used and she buys them with stains and holes. SHE grew up poor and knows you do not need to have everything new. I agree, but somethings should be new. They are not swimming in dough but they are much better off that she was when she was growing up. Well EX DDIL is fed up and is going to go back for CS since she is having him all the time and paying for everything (not quite true but certainly the majority)
OK HERE IT IS
I am trying to get her to understand that a certain amount is due to that child whether it is in CS or in cooperative aid. He has another child that he pays $250.00 each month in CS.
So I ask her to be honest and tell me if they can honestly say they spend $250.00 or better for DGS each month? She boldly tells me yes. He eats there and they do fun things.
I told her to scratch the "fun things" because those don't really count in this equation.
She says if exDDIL's fun counts, there's should too. I said that EA don't count for either .
She is driving me batty. Am I wrong in this?
Also They are a one car family and she is going to drop off son and then drive 45 minutes in traffic and back and then do it in reverse in the evening 10 days a month (approx.)
I say on top of being irresponsible with my DGS she is being financially stupid on top of it.
So explain this to me.
I would like it if you would identify whether you are talking from the perspective of the mother or from the perspective of the woman who married a man with kids.
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