Here's some quick background information:
I was married once already, to the father of my 4 year old daughter. He and I had a falling out, divorced and he moved out of the country indefinitely. He put me through a lot and really caused me some issues. However, his mother remained in the country and has been a part of my daughter's life this entire time.
When I met my fiance, he seemed okay with me taking my daughter to see her grandma and it was never an issue but when we moved in together I noticed he seemed bothered by it. Come to find out, he's having issues with the idea that my daughter will be close to her biological father's family and that it might raise more questions and issues when blending out family later on (he's going to adopt her when we get married and my ex husband's family supports this).
Well, I am 8 months pregnant and when the baby comes he wants me to stay at home...but I just received my bachelor's degree and would like to pursue my field of interest for a while. He says this is okay but childcare is VERY expensive. If we send the girl's to a childcare center it will be nearly 2,000 a month and we aren't fans of daycares anyway.
He wants his mom to watch the girls but his mom is very sickly. She's nearly 70 years old and in just the last 3 years she has had quadruple bypass surgery and she has been diagnosed with, treated and in remission from cervical cancer. I worry that it will be too much on her.
My daughter's biological dad's mom offered to watch the girls for FREE. She's retired and has nothing else to do and she'd loved to get closer to her granddaughter and bless her heart it makes no difference to her that she'd be watching the baby as well.
My fiance is 100% against it. I am on the fence...
What do you ladies think?
Asked by Anonymous at 3:06 PM on Sep. 26, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 3:14 PM on Sep. 26, 2013
Answer by louise2 at 3:20 PM on Sep. 26, 2013
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Answer by louise2 at 3:30 PM on Sep. 26, 2013
Answer by skinnyslokita at 3:38 PM on Sep. 26, 2013
Answer by Rosehawk at 3:55 PM on Sep. 26, 2013