I just learned a former co-worker and her daughter died in a fire yesterday, she was one of my favortie people. The husband and son made it out alive, now this morning they have charged her 14 year old son with arson. I plan on going to the funeral, but what do you say, how in the world do you cope with losing your wife and daughter, and having your son be the one responsible for their deaths.
Before we moved, my husband and I had done things quite a bit with their family-I am just shocked the boy I remember as being so sweet and kind could do such a thing.
I have to go to work, but would appreciate your thoughts and help of how to offer some kind of comfort.
Answer by feralxat at 1:41 PM on Sep. 27, 2013
Answer by 2autisticsmom at 10:28 AM on Sep. 27, 2013
Support him just like you would if his son wasn't involved. As for what to say, I guess the same thing you would say to anyone. That you are so sorry for his loss and that if he should need anything to feel free to call on you and your family.
Also, keep in mind that the determination of arson doesn't necessarily imply that he intended to do harm to any of the family. It's a very good probability that the deaths were completely unintentional.
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