My friend of about 8 years on and off, has become so needy over the last 3 months. *background* she's had a rough life bounced around a lot parents split, mom didnt want her, her dad left her on a friends doorstep after she graduated. She moved back near me, living w/ her dads ex. She didn't want to pay bills/rent (had 2 jobs) the lady packed her up asked her to leave. She found a guy and intentionally got pregnant (she asked me how hard is it being a parent. I told her no 2 mos. later she was preggo).
The guy turned out to be on meth ended up in jail, she moved in with his family who she doesn't know (again I told her bad idea) she beat up his mother (black eye) then moved in with another woman she met (who lived in a 2 bd apt with 5 kids and her husband) sleeping in the kids bed. Over the past few months constantly asking me can she live with me and my husband and 2 kids. We've had roommates (family and friends) it all turned sour, we agreed no. So I told her no, I offered to take her to a shelter and let them help her get a place, she declined. I am her child's god mother. She throws it in my face. "this how you treat your godchild.' 'I picked you up that time (she offered I never ask ppl for anything for this exact reason)' 'I thought we were friends.' I don't like being given the guilt trip. She doesn't work, or even try to. I've given her money but she and her child are not my responsibility. I intend to tell her grow up get your sh!t together and stop blaming me for your downfalls. Contact me when you get yourself together. But I wonder am I being to harsh.
this has happened to me two other times with friends Im wondering is it me. I do a lot for (different) friends. babysit, buy their kids clothes, buy groceries, medications, whatever they just absolutely need and can't afford. This is over a period of time, but I do whatever I can. My mother raised me to be giving and ask nothing in return (and I don't ask anyone for anything EVER) but I wonder, am I causing a dependence.
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