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Hi how can i get my 4 year old to want to count as i haven't pick up on her counting in a wile

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Asked by Ash996 at 9:47 AM on Sep. 30, 2013 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Start counting everything out loud. "Look... I see one, two, three carrots on your plate." "Lets count the cars on our street." "Can you take five bites of your bratwurst?"

    If you model the behavior it is easier for kids to understand.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 9:54 AM on Sep. 30, 2013

  • ^^^what SB said and count EVERY DAY!

    Answer by luvmygrandgirl at 10:04 AM on Sep. 30, 2013

  • Is she specifically resistant to counting? If so, I recommend you focus on noticing what DOES capture her attention & energy;connect with that. Don't reinforce a negative power struggle around "counting."
    If it's just that you haven't noticed her counting in a while & you'd like to support her in developing that skill, then bring your attention to counting opportunities rooted in living & doing when you're together. So if you're holding hands walking upstairs, count the steps aloud. Keep it about connection & warmth, NOT about pushing her to "do" something. (A lot of counting is memorizing & remembering a sequence of sounds, so hearing YOU do it is related to doing it herself.) Create opportunities for her to hear & learn the "order" of those number-words. And capitalize on situations that make the one-to-one correspondence clear: counting stairs, items you spoon onto her plate at dinner, daisies in a vase...

    Answer by girlwithC at 10:37 AM on Sep. 30, 2013

  • Count everything. Spoons as they come out of the dishwasher, clouds in the sky, stop signs as you drive by. Also, Sesame Street and Winnie-the-Pooh, and other children's videos, have some nice catchy tunes about numbers.

    Answer by Ballad at 10:48 AM on Sep. 30, 2013

  • Keep in mind that strengthening her memorization skills will support her ability to count, so memorizing songs & rhymes can be very helpful. Counting is simply reciting numbers (words!) in the correct sequence. Many times children will be more attracted to rhymes and songs because they can connect to the meaning. Numbers are very abstract. Once kids begin to grasp quantity, and one-to-one correspondence, there is SOME meaning to the numbers/words they're reciting when they count items, but the meaning of songs, rhymes, and chants is generally more accessible.

    And be sure to notice & appreciate what your daughter actually is doing & mastering, (what her interests & activities reflect about her learning), even as you are keen to help her develop skills that matter to you. Four year olds are pretty amazing in their busy-ness and in the connections they are actively making, not to mention their active "wondering."

    Answer by girlwithC at 10:49 AM on Sep. 30, 2013

  • incorpate in your daily routine as much as possible. Counting everything will really help as it just becomes second nature.

    Answer by Sillylins at 11:48 AM on Sep. 30, 2013

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