She is 7. I will start by saying she is indeed oversensitive, bossy, and can't let things go. We work really hard on it. I am even bringing her to counseling. My husband's family fell apart in an extremely devastating way, and for our own emotional health we needed to get as far away as possible. The last year my daughter has struggled socially in her new school. She didn't have this huge of a problem back home. It's been almost two years since moving and she really is getting better. It's a punch in the stomach when she doesn't have friends. It makes me sad.
Last year, she made best friends with this little girl. We will call her Julie. Julie would find amusement out of DDs sensitivity issues and provoke her, by name calling, taking toys from her, putting her down, and one time even shoved a bloody tissue from her nosebleed in DD's face. When my daughter reacts, which is always high reactivity, the focus is on her. Nowgranted, Julies mom had some personal issues. She said some really horrible things about my daughter to Julie. Julie tells my daughter the things that were said. I couldn't believe an adult would speak so ill of another child. It was devastating.
This year she has a new friend. Tara. Her and Tara argue a lot. DD must end play dates if there is fighting. We are at zero tolerance. However, Tara is friends with the daughter of a teacher at our school. Apparantly the teacher has told Taras mom that my child is a bully and said some other things about my child to her child. Tonight my daughter came to me sobbing hysterically saying this teacher yells at her at recess and lunch, and is nice to her when the principal is around. She also said these two children said their parents hate her.
DD get's weekly reports sent home. She has all good marks. There are no complaints from her teacher. DD hasn't said a word about fighting with other kids at school in a long time. I feel like calling a child a bully, is name calling and labeling. She struggles, and we are trying. It doesn't help. It hurts bad. I had no idea there was any RECENT problems. No parents have said anything, nor has the principal. I am just now hearing all this! It bothers me that a teacher at her school, is saying these things about my daughter to another parent, and her own child. The parent informed me of what the teacher said about my daughter. Why hasn't she come to me? Why hasn't she told the principal? I'm so lost and confused right now. I know my daughter's flaws, trust me. But I feel like something else is really really wrong here.
Answer by Ballad at 3:05 AM on Oct. 2, 2013
Answer by feralxat at 8:21 AM on Oct. 2, 2013
Answer by 2autisticsmom at 10:33 AM on Oct. 2, 2013