My dau & a friend of hers, who she has been friends with since Kindergarten, haven't spoken in about 2 wks. This girl does have her moods, but they usually don't last this long. Part of it had to do with a misunderstanding, where my dau said, "Fine, I have nicer friends who will talk to me", but the other girl somehow heard it as: "Fine, I have better friends & don't need you."
So 2 days ago, my dau found a pic they drew together back in 1st grade & slipped it into her locker. Unfortunately, her friend has been having issues w/ her lock & hasn't been able to get into her locker in the past 2 days, so she didn't get it yet.
While talking to this girl's mom last night, I was so excited for them about the puppy they are getting & I that I want to go visit & play with too; that I think my own selfish desire to play with a puppy & get those sweet puppy breath kisses, led me to talk to her mom about the whole thing. I just asked her if she knew anything about it & I explained that I thought it was mainly a misunderstanding. She agreed. Girls at this age- sigh.
Anyway, my fear is that this girl could cause problems for my dau, b/c I talked to her mom. Maybe not now, but the next time she gets in a mood. Then my dau will be mad at me b/c I got involved. I did tell her about the call & she's fine for now. I just hope the whole thing doesn't come back to bite me.
What do you think?
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Answer by QuinnMae at 9:27 AM on Oct. 5, 2013
my dau likes a boy who likes her back, ...
IMHO, we must never tell our children, esp. girls, that the happiness of someone else is more important than their own happiness. It sets them up for a life of unfulfilling martyrdom.
How will DD feel in the event the friend doesn't show the same self sacrificing attributes? And while only in 6th grade would you like to see the same behavior when she reaches marriageable age?
I like a guy and he like me but because BFF likes him too (and he never talks about her other than to acknowledge her existence) I have decided to remain single.
Wouldn't a true friend celebrate your happiness?
I understand she is only in the 6th grade, I am merely suggesting a long term consideration of the topic.
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