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How do you get back up, when you've been let down so much by you husband?

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dede2007

Asked by dede2007 at 3:42 AM on Oct. 11, 2013 in Relationships

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  • Let down in what way?
    goldpandora

    Answer by goldpandora at 3:52 AM on Oct. 11, 2013

  • promises, stuff he gonna take care of, improve on, & etc.
    dede2007

    Comment by dede2007 (original poster) at 3:58 AM on Oct. 11, 2013

  • Hard to answer with so little to go on...
    have you or he had counseling? either apart or together?
    maybe start there?
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 6:52 AM on Oct. 11, 2013

  • promises, stuff he gonna take care of, improve on, & etc.

    so he's a liar, lazy and doesn't care about the relationship?
    divorce
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 8:06 AM on Oct. 11, 2013

  • That's so vague. It's really hard to say. I'm gonna suggest counseling too.
    mommy_jules

    Answer by mommy_jules at 8:08 AM on Oct. 11, 2013

  • Sometimes you don't. Sometimes you can't.

    What you do is to take a long, hard look at the situation and you ask yourself two very basic questions:

    1. What am I teaching our children by allowing this to continue and how is this affecting their lives?
    2. Can I imagine myself still in this exact same situation in ten years time?

    And you take it from there.
    goldpandora

    Answer by goldpandora at 8:56 AM on Oct. 11, 2013

  • Depends on what he's letting you down about. Small stuff like chores? Ignore it. BIG stuff, like cheating? That calls for counseling if you haven't had it, divorce if he refuses it.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 9:36 AM on Oct. 11, 2013

  • We both have cheated on each other in the past, but we got through it. I have caught him looking at porn 3 times in the past year and the second time it happened I told him that if he ever did it again I wouldn't be able to take it. I feel like if he wants me then y does he need porn. It's also been a while since we have done anything we are both always so tired. We both work!
    dede2007

    Comment by dede2007 (original poster) at 10:01 AM on Oct. 11, 2013

  • So basically this comes down to him looking at porn. Porn isn't a big deal, but if you think it is a deal breaker then leave. Always follow through on your promises.
    kmath

    Answer by kmath at 10:29 AM on Oct. 11, 2013

  • Porn is just something thats come up again yesterday! I love him so much and we have been through so much but I feel like I'm alone in this marriage and parenting. He don't spend time with us anymore. I have 2 daughters and we have a son together I was $ months pregnant with my second daughter when we got together.
    dede2007

    Comment by dede2007 (original poster) at 10:35 AM on Oct. 11, 2013

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