I am having a really hard time right now. I am trying to get a psychiatrist for my son, but it is taking longer than I would like.
About a month and a half ago my son started on this thing where he doesn't like anything. Doesn't matter if he liked it the day before - he doesn't like it now. There is absolutely nothing he will admit to liking. This includes his friends, teachers, favorite foods, people, shows ect. He will not admit to liking any of it. He hasn't changed his behavior at all and it still a happy-go-lucky kid who enjoys doing things. But even when he is playing and having fun and asking me to watch him as he does something new and/or cool if I ask him if he likes it he will go quit and say he really doesn't or he forgets if he likes it or just say no but he is just doing it even though he doesn't like it.
an example of this would be us watching Night at the Museum - he is laughing at all the funny parts calls me over to watch the monkey being silly. He is clearly enjoying himself, when the movie is over I asked him if he liked it, he tells me "no I don't think I did" I tell him that that's ok and I will take it back to the store and I wont buy him anymore movies if he doesn't like any of them - I didn't say this in a mean way, just conversationally relaying a fact. He tells me that's ok because he doesn't like movies.
It has gotten to the point that I have told him that santa wont know what to bring him for christmas because he doesn't like anything. He said that it's ok, because he doesn't like anything and he doesn't know if he wants to do christmas this year.
I have pretty much stopped asking if he likes anything because he always answers this way.
He has recently escalated it though. Now if I forget and ask him if he likes something he will still tell me he doesn't like anything but is now saying things like he wants to like things and he doesn't know what will happen to him if he doesn't like anything. He started out asking me if he would die if he doesn't like anything, then it turned into 'I want to be someone else, I don't want to be me anymore' and now it is 'I want to die' and telling me about how he has dreams that he is in heaven and watching over everyone.
a few weeks ago I pushed back a bit because he asked me to sing him a song before bed I asked him if he wanted me to sing it because he likes it? he just kept repeating that he doesn't want to talk about things like that. So I told him that if he doesn't like me singing I am not going to sing for him. He then asked me to cuddle him to sleep, I asked again if he wants me to do it because he likes it and again he became very frustrated. I demanded that he just admits that he likes to be sung to and that he likes cuddles. He replied that he doesn't want to be a bad boy anymore and that I should slap him in the face as hard as he can, he screamed that he wanted to die.
I haven't heard him tell me that he wants me to slap him again, but he has been telling me he wants to die more and more.
I am feeling scared about all this.
Has anyone had an similar experiences?
Asked by Anonymous at 3:30 PM on Oct. 12, 2013 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 4:13 PM on Oct. 12, 2013
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Answer by KTElite at 4:23 PM on Oct. 12, 2013
IDK but there is such a thing as too much attention. Especially when it gets repetitive. I would just stop asking him if he likes things. He may just be getting wacked out from you asking so much. For lack of a better way of explaining it. How about a little ignoring for a change. Buy him what you think he'll like for Christmas without asking. Then if he says that I wanted this or that say well I did not tell Santa what you wanted because you didn't tell me. As far as the whole dying thing, he may just be a little bit of a drama king. I have one of those too. How is he in school? Do they have a School Psychologist in his School? That would be my first call. He may just be a quirky kid. Kids are also mirrors of our excessive behavior so maybe take a look & think if you are a bit dramatic & depressed looking or your DH.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 5:06 PM on Oct. 12, 2013
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