I get sick and tired of people talking about my ex to him. I can just talk about something very random and somehow people will find a way to include my ex with the topic. It's been almost two years since we have been broken up, so you would think that people would stop talking about him. Yes, we have a son together, but that's the only thing we have in common. When I would run into my ex a lot, he would brag to me about how well him and his gilfriend are doing. One day when we were arguing, because he kept saying that I still had feelings for him. I told him that's not the case. In fact, I only talk to him about my son. Him, on the other hand would talk to me about other things. After I told him that, he admitted that he brags to me about his life just to show me that he's doing better than me. My whole point of saying this is I get tired of him. I get tired of people bringing him up. My mom talked about how he mention to her how well he's doing and that I should quit my job and focus on school like how my ex did by not working and just focusing on school. Well, I am not going let other people take care of my son for me, just so I can focus more on getting my life together. I'm going to try to do both, take care my son and go to school and not stay unemployed for 3 years and have other people take care of my responsibility like my selfish ex did. Maybe I'm jealous, but I feel like I hate my ex. I feel like I hate him for trying his best to make my life miserable when we first broke up. I feel like I hate him for looking down on me just because I'm not doing as good as he is. I feel like I hate him for not being there for our son when he should have been. I feel like I hate him for making me struggle when he's making 50,000 a year and rarely paying child support. I feel like I hate him for not wanting to watch him when I had to go to school, arriving late to pick my son up and making me late for school, or not even picking him up at all. Sorry for talking about my personal life details. I just needed to vent.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:34 AM on Oct. 16, 2013 in Relationships
I think there are a few things that are really hard to see when you are in the middle of something like this. First off, he brags because he wants you to be unhappy. While what he is doing is hurtful, it's also not completely honest. One that is truly happy doesn't need to brag about it. It's more likely that he makes his life sound better than it is just to get to you. So realize that while he says these things, it comes with his agenda. You need to find a way to feel at peace with being without him (personally, not for the child you share). Release him and tell him you are happy for him. Cut him off at the knees and he won't be able to get to you as easily.
As for support, I would suggest finding a way to get it taken out of his pay automatically so that he can't skip payments. That's only fair to your child.
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