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Can anyone explain this for me???

A friend just attempted to file a PFA against her boys' dad because last night when he came to pick them up after visitations he threatened to kick her ass, right in front of the kids. She called the cops and when he heard her talking to them he left. Funny thing is, he took back roads because he knew they would be after him. They met him in Salina and arrested him on several charges (too many to name..harrassment, stalking, domestic abuse, etc). The district attorney said that he would grant the PFA to protect her and the boys but yet when he gets out of jail we have to take the boys back to him and he is still allowed to come near my property to pick up the boys. I dont see how the boys can be protected if they are in his custody. Does this make sense to any of you? He has beat her and nearly killed her on numerous occasions but yet they still let him loose. Whats wrong with this law system?

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Asked by agrafel at 2:02 PM on Feb. 19, 2009 in About CafeMom

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  • A protective order doesnt change custody or visits, thats why. If he is this violent she needs to file for emergency custody with the protective order being a reason. She can also consider contacting cps and seeing if they wont intervene.

    Answer by gemgem at 2:04 PM on Feb. 19, 2009

  • But he has harmed to boys before. The boys said that when they took the dirt roads he was doing kiddeys and going really fast. That right there is putting the boys in danger. The sherriff's department has record of all the times that she has showed up after getting the shit beat out of her and they still allow the boys to be in his custody!!! Why??

    Answer by agrafel at 2:16 PM on Feb. 19, 2009

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