I've commented to DH that I am always giving, not receiving oral. I made a comment at the sex shop about getting flavored oral stuff so maybe I'd get mine. He said very emphatically that it would help, which made me ask again why he doesn't like to go down. He says he does, and has spent lots of time doing it, but only every now and then. Once he had said when I ovulate he doesnt like to because its different texture. Also that he is afraid I'll start my period when he's down there. Now the other night he told me that he doesnt like to go down unless I'm right out of the shower because the smell is a turn off. I always wash with soap & water before sex to get the pee smell off, too. We have no infections, no STDs, no cheating, etc. We some times have sex several times a day & when he ejaculates, I've noticed an odor, not fishy, just strong, even when I bathe/clean up. I've read that the semen left inside can cause an odor. I'm hurt, because I've dealt with his untreated bipolar & ED for 2 years before he finally got help. I'm depressed already from that. He wants sex always when he wants it & I feel like he is being insensitive! He sleeps a lot due to depression (which is getting better) & wants sex when he wakes up, then goes back to sleep. I feel like a live in hoe. When I cried, "so you you think I'm nasty" he said that its nothing like that. I don't think its fair that he expects oral & sex on command but won't do it for me. I feel like crap. My ex husband would have lived down there if I'd let him, never complained. What would you do? Would you cut him off?
Asked by Anonymous at 4:00 PM on Oct. 17, 2013 in Relationships
1- STOP BLOWING HIM
2- Wash your external parts only, soap and water, once a day, MAYBE twice (after a workout, after sex, etc).
3- "Body Kiss"- strongly scented, strongly flavored body lotion that doubles as lubricant.
Anything else is HIS issue that HE needs to deal with. If he keeps making comments, you'll just need to remember this:
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