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What time do you expect your teenager home?

Mine is 14 and thinks he should be allowed to come and go as he pleases
we have been compromising on being home by 11 on friday and saturday nights and he generally abides by it

in your opinion how late is too late?


Asked by AllyB_ at 9:12 PM on Oct. 19, 2013 in Teens (13-17)

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Answers (20)
  • Rather than applying a set curfew, I lean more toward communication & decisions made on a case by case basis. I wouldn't have an expectation that a 14 year old would or should just "be out," but that activities & visits with friends come up and we come to an agreement based on individual situations.
    I think being flexible & responsive (reasonable, respectful, fair, flexible...) makes LOTS of sense in your situation. It is important, I think, to respect where he is coming from & how he feels, which is based in part on his actual experience & history (raising himself.) While also representing your own position, as his guardian who IS responsible for him. It's about reconciling the two & honoring each other's dignity, rather than one "side" winning out.
    Plus, there are multiple ways to respond. Such as, what if you encouraged him to invite a friend or friends over to YOUR place sometime? Maybe after school, or in the evening.

    Answer by girlwithC at 10:55 AM on Oct. 21, 2013

  • What is a 14 year old doing until 11 PM?

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 9:20 PM on Oct. 19, 2013

  • I would guess that at 14 you pay for his phone, so I don't think he'd have a choice whether he let you download it or not.

    Answer by GarysWife1991 at 9:25 PM on Oct. 19, 2013

  • I just looked up that app, that looks great but I'm not sure he'll want to download it :/

    DONT ASK do it, if he turns it off take his phone and make his butt stay home

    Answer by luvmygrandgirl at 9:58 PM on Oct. 19, 2013

  • My 14 year old isn't allowed to go out without me knowing where he is. And there would be no him going out at all if he wasn't home when I expected him to be.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 9:24 PM on Oct. 19, 2013

  • Where I live, we have a 10:15 curfew for kids under 14 and under, weekends and 9:15 on weekdays.

    Answer by KTElite at 10:43 PM on Oct. 19, 2013

  • 9:30 week nights 10:30 weekends and that depends on exactly where and with whom they are with.

    Answer by Dardenella at 12:25 AM on Oct. 20, 2013

  • depends on who they are wiht, where they are,what they are doing

    generally, if not staying the night somewhere or at a movie or something- it was 9-10ish at that age

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 10:15 AM on Oct. 20, 2013

  • I'm not big on curfews as long as I know where my kids are and approximately what time they will be home. I also have Find my Friends on my phone so I usually know where my kids are. My 16 year old I'm alot more flexible than I am with my 13 year old though.

    Answer by GarysWife1991 at 9:16 PM on Oct. 19, 2013

  • I just looked up that app, that looks great but I'm not sure he'll want to download it :/

    Comment by AllyB_ (original poster) at 9:18 PM on Oct. 19, 2013