What do the courts consider when making a decision for custody in a divorce? I know it usually depends on the state, but what are the "givens"? My ex and I will most likely be going to court because of our inability to agree on an arrangement.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:46 PM on Oct. 20, 2013 in General Parenting
Answer by ohwrite at 8:56 PM on Oct. 20, 2013
Answer by ohwrite at 9:08 PM on Oct. 20, 2013
The standard arrangement is every other weekend and a couple hours one night a week for dinner. Summers usually consist of at least two weeks of uninterrupted time. Holidays will alternate for even / odd years and you both get your birthdays. Many of these things can be negotiated, but this is a standard arrangement. The courts will probably consider how much time the child spends with the father already, what kind of job you have and if you are not able to care for the child when he can (like if you work late or every weekend). Usually you can ask that each other have the right of first refusal which would obligate you to call the other in the event you aren't able to care for your child before seeking a sitter or outside help.
I agree, have your attorney hammer out the details. If he won't negotiate through a mediator then I guess it will have to go to court.
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:09 PM on Oct. 20, 2013
What is he asking for? Have you already been to court for your divorce? How did the judge see you? Were you amicable? The courts will look more favorably if you have attempted to negotiate and give a little.
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:11 PM on Oct. 20, 2013
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:22 PM on Oct. 20, 2013
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:24 PM on Oct. 20, 2013
When she is in school it is in her best interest to have consistency during the week. Some parents can come to a split arrangement, but I would think that would be difficult for a child to bounce between homes during the school week. I would ask that custody be set up as it will be expected when she is enrolled in elementary.
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:28 PM on Oct. 20, 2013
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