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Is it bad to get frustrated with your 17 month old ?

i was talking to one of my friends and i told him that my little girl can be so frustrating at times and well he started telling me that what was wrong with me, that nobody gets frustrated with a one year and well i felt bad, so am i wrong for doing this ?

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Asked by isseysmommy at 12:36 AM on Oct. 23, 2013 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • I don't know how your friend could be so insensitive... Here, you deserve a mug....


    Answer by anestheticsex at 12:37 AM on Oct. 23, 2013

  • Is it bad to get frustrated? NO. Is it bad to scream/yell at a 17mth old? Yes. Is it bad to hit them because you are frustrated? yes.

    I think you see where I'm going. Everyone gets frustrated from time to time, it's what we DO not FEEL that is either bad or good.

    Answer by tntmom1027 at 12:40 AM on Oct. 23, 2013

  • Your friend is full of shit. Full and brimming over. Getting frustrated is normal. Depending on what you do with the frustration, it could be bad. Yelling is bad, hitting it bad. Walking away for a few minutes and cooling off is better. Reading up on child development so yu have realistic expectations, and picking your battles, are also better.

    Answer by Ballad at 12:49 AM on Oct. 23, 2013

  • please, does this dude even have kids?! or if he does, does he see them for more than a few minutes a day? any day i dont get frustrated with my 2 year old is an amazing day...toddlers are frustrating, they just are!

    what you DO with that frustration is what can make you a bad parent...violence and/or emotional abuse b/c of your frustration is bad parenting.

    Answer by okmanders at 12:52 AM on Oct. 23, 2013

  • Of course you will get frustrated. You are both learning this parent kid thing. It isn't easy. If you do get frustrated you simply make sure the child is in a safe, secure place and step away to look for your cool. With luck your kid will benefit from the separation and have his cool back to. If nothing else a movie or a nap.

    Answer by Dardenella at 12:52 AM on Oct. 23, 2013

  • Uh, baby shaking syndrome. Point is, it can be really frustrating but you just realize they are babies/children and then YOU take the time out.

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 1:07 AM on Oct. 23, 2013

  • Absolutely normal to be frustrated. Absolutely wrong to express or take any of that frustration out on the child. Motherhood is frustrating, period. Learn to deal with it now.

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 1:49 AM on Oct. 23, 2013

  • Your friend is a male....enough said...he's an expert in child rearing. NOT! It's normal & average to get frustrated with children of any age. But as an adult you have the ability to channel your upset in a positive way and not in anger. Being a Mom is the hardest most mentally challenging job in the world. They keep changing & you are staying the same. You have to keep up and constantly adjust to all these daily changes in your child's needs, mood & personality. I wonder if "your" friend could do what you do in just one day. He is the knower of all & master of none. Tell him that!

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 8:04 AM on Oct. 23, 2013

  • We all get frustrated, but remember that you are your child's first teacher. They do not come into this world knowing how to act or react to things. Stay calm, loving, and a good teacher. Praise when she does something right and make her your big helper in any little thing you are doing. GL

    Answer by silverthreads at 8:29 AM on Oct. 23, 2013

  • It's always a good idea to ask yourself why you are getting so frustrated. Children are going to do things that they shouldn't. They always have and they always will. The thing is that they don't automatically stop doing those things; they have to be taught what is and is not acceptable behavior in your home. Parenting today has become lazy in a lot of instances. Somehow the idea has been handed down that children will just outgrow bad behavior. They won't! Your child is at the age where you must start teaching her what will and will not be tolerated in your home. How you go about that is your choice, but you should pick a method and stick to it. Consistency is very important even at this early age. Children must have boundaries and those must be enforced. If you need help in this area, get BOUNDARIES FOR CHILDREN by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend. It's an excellent book for helping you set and enforce limits!

    Answer by NannyB. at 9:07 AM on Oct. 23, 2013

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