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Greedy niece

I take care of my 5 year old niece and she is kind of greedy shes an only child is this normal? Is she ever going to get over this stage?

 
lefty_69

Asked by lefty_69 at 2:19 PM on Oct. 28, 2013 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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Answers (10)
  • I think all kids go through a no share moment, only children may have a harder time. Mine is an only child however there have always been other children around. She has things that are specifically hers that she does not have to share but anything else is fair game. She is aware that being rude and taking toys etc is cause for time out.

    Keep working with her, she will catch on.
    luvmygrandgirl

    Answer by luvmygrandgirl at 3:16 PM on Oct. 28, 2013

  • It's normal for kids that age to not be great about sharing. Every time she is at your house is an opportunity to teach her about sharing.
    mrsmom110

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 2:51 PM on Oct. 28, 2013

  • She may be greedy but it's your house you set the guidelines not her. If she wants something she asks politely. Then it's up to you if you give it to her or not. If she or her parents don't like it tuff cookie. Your house Your rules.
    baconbits

    Answer by baconbits at 2:23 PM on Oct. 28, 2013

  • It's probably natural for an only child. It depends on the parents whether she out grows it or not. If they get on to her every time they notice her ,hopefully she will outgrow it.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:24 PM on Oct. 28, 2013

  • In what ways is she greedy?

    I think it comes down to personality. Some people are just naturally greedier than others. She has to follow your rules while in your care though.
    Ginger0104

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 2:38 PM on Oct. 28, 2013

  • greedy HOW?
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 2:40 PM on Oct. 28, 2013

  • She doesn't share her things with my other children and she rubs it in their face i have a 5 year old daughter shes the one that cares the most and a four year old son who doesn't care unless its candy then there will be an argument
    lefty_69

    Comment by lefty_69 (original poster) at 2:45 PM on Oct. 28, 2013

  • You need to be a tad more forthcoming with information.
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 2:55 PM on Oct. 28, 2013

  • pretty normal for a 5 yr old...

    setting timers can help with sharing
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 3:01 PM on Oct. 28, 2013

  • It is very typical for children to have trouble sharing toys with other children. The more connected, secure & comfortable they feel, the more flexible & resilient they are. But when children are carrying tension from feelings of alienation, hurt, frustration & need, they have a hard time staying balanced. Anything upsetting triggers a LOAD of turbulent feelings inside, and to keep these at bay they will get rigid/demanding & try to exert control over things/people.
    Children's behavior will go off-track when they are carrying a lot of feelings. They can't think well & they're impulsive because they're neurologically stuck in the stress response (fight/flight reaction.) Every upset presents an opportunity for healing emotional release. This is why they'll get upset "over anything" or even find pretexts about which to fall apart (you cut the sandwich wrong, or they wanted the blue cup!) Same with rigidity around sharing things.
    girlwithC

    Answer by girlwithC at 9:49 PM on Oct. 28, 2013