So Im with my SO and we are at his sisters house. We are about to leave for a thirty minute drive to get my holloween costume. we get it, I put it on, and we are back at his sisters ready to go, except by the time we get back she doesnt want to go anymore. The plan was we were all going to a holloween costume party at the casino. I am not really big at going out at all, in fact I dont even drink, but I do make an effort since its whats everyones doing and whenever I dont go I feel like a let down and a party pooper.
Anyway, my costume is sort of out of wack because the elastic in the front broke so top keeps falling down. Well this made me awfully uncomfortable to go out in it, so I keep expressing how uncomfortable it is that I feel too hoochy to go out in public like this with my top keep coming down, not to mention the short dress. I did NOT want to wear it but he wanted to show his friends his beautiful girlfriend so I was doing it for him, dressing up and all. So on top of that I had really bad cramps last night. So I say that and SO just gets pissed. Not pissed that I had cramps, just annoyed that I was complainign I suppose. We get in the car to go but out of the blue he says he's dropping me off at home. I say ok I want my car then , so we go back and get my car. He was being very rude and just kept telling me to go, and he dares me to go out alone with the outfit on without him. I had no intentions, in fact I was already in my jeans excited to go home and take a shower and go to sleep.
Well he goes out and says he'll be back around 12:30. its 6:30 now and I havent heard a peep since.
This is our first holloween together so Im a little dissappointed but Im wondering if I did anything wrong or if he should have understanded my uncomfort a little more? He just didnt like my attitude because it wasnt gung-ho enough about the night. he got all dressed up as a pirate and put in a lot of effort, he said I was not putting in enough effort.
So I trust the dude, Im just upset that he's mad at me for something I could not control.
If I were in his shoes too I would atleast message my girlfriend hows shes doing and tell her that he's safe but I just dont get why hes so resentful that I wasn't equipped for the night,
Asked by Anonymous at 9:45 AM on Nov. 1, 2013 in Relationships
I would think twice about the relationship, if it were me. It's nice that he wants to 'show you off', but you are a human - not a trophy. If he is this insensitive about you having cramps and not wanting to expose yourself too much to a bunch of people you are just meeting for the first time, then I would wonder what other expectations he has for you to meet.
That's how I would feel.
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