My husband has 3 old (10+ years ago) felonies, he is not the same person as he was then he was in his early 20's and young and stupid. We have been together 9 years and he has had no charges not so much as a traffic ticket since we got together. He is a good man now who works hard to support me and pay $700 a month in child support to his ex for his 2 teenaged sons who she wont even let him see because she is spitefull, he hasnt seen his sons since they were 1 and 3. I have fertility issues and have just had my third miscarriage. I want to look into adoption, but I am pretty sure we will not be able to because of his past... So I am desperate for a child, I want to be a mom more than I have or will ever want anything and I went into "how can I make this work?" mode... Please dont think I am a bad person for thinking this because I'm not, I am desperate and have limited options. I am seriously considering getting a temporary divorce just until an adoption is final (because single women can adopt in my state) then getting re-married in a year or so... Hubby would be "living with a friend" for a while so he has a separate residence. I have heard if you have no disputes in a divorce and are not fighting over anything a divorce can be pretty quick. I have a clean record and am a former pre-school teacher so I should have no problem adopting and I wand to adopt a young child (3-6 years) and I am ok with mild special needs so its not like I am gonna be waiting forever for a baby. Would this even work?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:29 AM on Nov. 1, 2013 in Adoption
Answer by tessiedawg at 10:33 AM on Nov. 1, 2013
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:33 AM on Nov. 1, 2013
Answer by NotPanicking at 10:35 AM on Nov. 1, 2013
Answer by Anonymous at 11:20 AM on Nov. 1, 2013
Answer by luvmygrandgirl at 11:23 AM on Nov. 1, 2013
Have you called and consulted with adoption agencies about what qualifies adults to adopt? As mentioned, there is also private adoption.
I agree with anon about therapy if you feel that you are 'emotionally damaged' from the miscarriages. If only to come to terms with what you have gone through and to make sure you are emotionally healthy for adopting.
Answer by QuinnMae at 11:28 AM on Nov. 1, 2013
Answer by 2kids2dogs2cats at 11:36 AM on Nov. 1, 2013
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 11:48 AM on Nov. 1, 2013
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