Do they raise control obsessed kids who grow up to be micromanaging parents, or do they raise rebellious kids who grow up to be adults who give their kids freedom to grow and learn?
Mostly, I'm curious about where helicopter parents come from - were they groomed to be that way and don't know any other way? There does seem to be an inherent lack of common sense involved in it - you control everything a child does, the child never learns, if the parent had learned that this makes damaged people, they wouldn't do it. Is it just a perpetuating, generational thing that gets worse in each iteration as the child grows up as a less knowledgeable adult than their parent, who knew less than their parent, and so on?
I think micromanaging parents raise kids that don't know how to do anything for themselves because someone was always there to carry them over the finish line. That's why we have all of these 'adult-children' that are nowhere near prepared or willing to take care of themselves. Finding a balance is hard, especially with more than one child. Some kids need more direction than others, but in general I think with as busy as kids live these days it's more common for parents to direct every aspect of their lives. We have neighbors that we never see because they are always running their kids around to all of their sporting and extracurricular things. My kids play outside and make up games and are a little more 'free range' than most of their classmates.
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