There is so much left out of this that would take too much time for you to explain. Such as how old was she when placed with you? What were the circumstances of her previous placements, if any? What leads up to these meltdowns, and as other moms have pointed out, how do you respond to them? My suggestion would be to first talk to her pediatrician to see if you can get a referral for a developmental psychotherapist and go from there. After an initial assessment that therapist should be able to better guide you in what resources and professionals are best suited for you, your daughter and your family.
at 7:48 PM on Nov. 3, 2013