This might be long, but i will make it as short as possible.. my boyfriend have been together for 6 years and have a 3 y/o and 3 month old and his mother passed 1 month ago very suddenly and without meeting our second daughter (we live 4000 miles away from her) anyways me and her never got a long (lots of arguments and she even got physical with me before) well since she passed....he has been channeling all his anger toward me calling me names, saying im not there for him, he even went as far as blaming me for his moms death :/ (she died of a heart attack) but then after awhile he acts normal, we have had our problems but nuthing this abusive, I am leaving for a month to go visit family for the holidays because i cant deal with it anymore....but im debating should i leave him...or what? any advice would be good! is this normal after losing someone?Answer Question
Answer by okmanders at 1:52 PM on Nov. 2, 2013
Answer by PartyGalAnne at 2:05 PM on Nov. 2, 2013
He needs some counseling. Losing a loved one is difficult and people handle their stress and greif in different ways, that said - you should not be blamed for something that is well beyond your control. His thinking is unreasonable and he's going to push you further away with his hurtful words. He needs to learn how to express his grief in acceptable ways, not by being unreasonable and hurtful to you or anyone else for that matter.
Honestly, I would demand that he gets grief counseling before I would expose myself or my kids to that kind of behavior again. Your children will learn by his example if you don't deal with this right now.
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