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Hubby cheated, has girlfriend for 9 years and 2 kids. divorcing him. should i tell my 18yr old daughter what he did and about the other kids

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:10 PM on Nov. 3, 2013 in Teens (13-17)

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  • you should both sit together and tell your daughter and yes they are her siblings
    luvmygrandgirl

    Answer by luvmygrandgirl at 9:14 PM on Nov. 3, 2013

  • Wow, if you can sit down & be calm and discuss that, hats off to you. Because I don't think that I could.
    3libras

    Answer by 3libras at 9:20 PM on Nov. 3, 2013

  • I'm not sure you can keep it a secret. Besides, secrets are dangerous. May as well get it out there and deal with it as soon as you can
    Daigen

    Answer by Daigen at 9:25 PM on Nov. 3, 2013

  • Oh man, what an asshole!
    I agree with luv, both of you should tell her! Time for him to man up!
    KTElite

    Answer by KTElite at 9:25 PM on Nov. 3, 2013

  • 3libras, I totally get where you are coming from but mom needs to be there for moral support to daughter and dad needs to admit what he did to screw this family up :(
    luvmygrandgirl

    Answer by luvmygrandgirl at 9:41 PM on Nov. 3, 2013

  • I definitely think she should know that she has siblings. Not sure how to go about it though. If mom can discuss it in such a way that she doesn't paint the kids as monsters, then it might be ok. I agree with luv that dad needs to fess up.
    kmath

    Answer by kmath at 10:02 PM on Nov. 3, 2013

  • Your hubby needs to tell her.
    LeJane

    Answer by LeJane at 10:03 PM on Nov. 3, 2013

  • How did you not know and how did you find out ?
    LeJane

    Answer by LeJane at 10:03 PM on Nov. 3, 2013

  • He should. I would give him that opportunity and tell him that you are going to let your child know that she has siblings in 7 days. He may tell her or you will. She has the right to know that she has siblings. The other details she can figure out for herself.
    I am sorry. I am surry that this is very painful for you.
    Dardenella

    Answer by Dardenella at 11:29 PM on Nov. 3, 2013

  • don't see a way around it. good luck to you. : (
    jeanclaudia

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 12:24 AM on Nov. 4, 2013

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