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I have another stupid remark (of sorts) by a nurse again

Ok,my son has autism,and he's 12 1/2
We had our follow up with the surgeon today (all good!). As we were leaving,the nurse says "Mom,can he have a s-u-c-k-e-r?" (she spelled it out)
Oh dear...... My son is 12. He can read. He knows what you just said.
He's 12. He can decide whether or not he wants a Tootsie Roll pop.
Add this to the list of...."what savant ability does he have?" "Does he need his diaper changed?" (last month) "Does he go to school with the rest of the kids?"


Asked by butterflyblue19 at 6:37 PM on Nov. 7, 2013 in Special Needs

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Answers (13)
  • People are stupid, nurses are no different. Trust me, I've worked with enough of them to know.

    Answer by anime_mom619 at 6:41 PM on Nov. 7, 2013

  • Oh my goodness! Stupid people. When I worked in peds we had an autistic boy with asthma about that age, I treated him like everyone else. One day he hugged me, his mom was really nervous when he did it because she thought he was trying to hurt me (he was severely autistic and was usually violent if strangers touched him). She was so shocked, everytime they came in he would walk up and hug me. His mom asked for me because he was much more cooperative for me. It was such an awesome feeling. Even if it was just helping him get his breathing treatments. That is how a nurse should act.

    Answer by AF4life at 6:48 PM on Nov. 7, 2013

  • Damn! You've gotten some real w-I-n-n-e-r-s lately! Not!

    Answer by Ballad at 6:55 PM on Nov. 7, 2013

  • AF's story just goes to show that kids, no matter how normal, or not, they are AREN'T stupid. So sorry you had to deal with another idiot nurse.

    Answer by Rosehawk at 7:01 PM on Nov. 7, 2013

  • It *may* have been force of habit.

    Answer by staciandababy at 7:08 PM on Nov. 7, 2013

  • She is lucky it wasn't me, I would have said something to her.

    Answer by AF4life at 7:15 PM on Nov. 7, 2013

  • if she changed her tone
    maybe, just maybe, she does with everyone
    like, she was trying to ask mom behind any kids back
    if it was regular volume, then she is an idiot and i have no excuse for her

    that is all i've got

    oh, and i would not have noticed this example as i am all about no food dyes
    * i can post links ;)

    however can relate, as i too have gotten some real winner comments
    you were there, you know in your gut if an idiot move or not

    Answer by fiatpax at 7:56 PM on Nov. 7, 2013

  • not done rambling

    mine at six, could not spell it out
    BUT anyone can offer her a sucker and she knows not to eat colored candy and will let them know she can not eat
    if i am there, she may ask if she can have a safe sucker

    i would appreciate a nurse not handing her candy without my approval, but spelling simple word in front of a "big" kid, totally see how this would set you off

    more hugs :)

    Answer by fiatpax at 7:59 PM on Nov. 7, 2013

  • oh,it was out loud all right



    Comment by butterflyblue19

    then she was not trying to communicate to you with kid not hearing

    only hope for her is that she has no kids and does not realize a child this age can certainly spell



    Answer by fiatpax at 8:14 PM on Nov. 7, 2013

  • Maybe she is used to spelling it and it was out of habit. But asking you first was the right thing to do, IMO.

    Diaper changed? WTF is that all about? I would have had a hard time keeping cool over that. I might have been a smart ass and said 'no, but I do'.

    Answer by QuinnMae at 8:56 PM on Nov. 7, 2013