I just got off the phone with my stepson. Actually, he hung up on me.
I knew there was trouble brewing, but I was minding my own business. He called me to complain. He has to meet with his parents and the guidance counselor in the morning because he hasn't shoed up to the last class of the school day for a couple of weeks now. His excuse is that he doesn't like the class, he doesn't want to go, and he's starving by that time in the afternoon. He'd rather go home and eat. He never has cared to eat breakfast, and the food at school is gross, so he won't eat lunch. By seventh period, he's too hungry to stay in class. I suggested he could carry a granola bar in his pocket and eat it before seventh period. Then he fell back on, he didn't want to go. So I said that the difference between being a kid and a grown-up is that when you're a kid, adults make you do things you don't want to do. When you're a grown-up, you have to make yourself do things you don't want to do because you know what will be best for you in the end. Finishing school means going to class, and finishing school will be best because it means getting a job ... *Click.*
Did I say the wrong thing? If so, what would have been a better approach?
Answer by May-20 at 9:07 AM on Nov. 8, 2013
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Answer by PartyGalAnne at 11:45 PM on Nov. 7, 2013
Answer by Dardenella at 11:48 PM on Nov. 7, 2013
That conversation sounded so familiar. My aspie son also had problems in high school. I had the "How do you plan to support yourself if you don't graduate" talk, over and over and over. His goal was to go to college to study what he was really interested in, music and math. What finally got through( during his junior year) was when I informed him that he could either get good grades and choose what college he WANTED to go to, or he could barley get by, and go to what ever college would be willing to take him, if any. He ended up graduating with honors. When aspies put their mind to something there is no stopping them.
Answer by musicmaker at 12:16 AM on Nov. 8, 2013
Answer by KTElite at 11:51 PM on Nov. 7, 2013
Answer by maecntpntz219 at 12:07 AM on Nov. 8, 2013
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